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MIL Holiday Drama
Am I crazy?
Since DH and I started dating we have run all over southern Cali for the holidays. Let me explain: Christmas Eve we are at my parents in Lancaster for midnight mass. We then open presents in the morning with my sisters and parents. Then we drive to Valencia to meet DH parents/DH grandparents at MIL's best friends house for brunch. Then we drive back up to Lancaster to meet my uncle/aunt/cousin/Grandma, open presents and have an early dinner. Then we drive down to Alta Dena to MIL neice's house to have dessert with his family.
I told DH that this year we aren't going to Alta Dena. I am tired of being on the road forever on Christmas and having to rush through dinner. Here's the kicker- DH is an only child and my mom invited MIL, FIL and DH aunts and Grandma to their house. They won't do it, although MIL neice was MIA last year bc her husband committed suicide at 32. So MIL insists on being there, totally forgetting about her son. (DH really isn't that close to his extended family and they don't really do "Christmas").
I just don't want to have to do this forever and I think that this year is as good as any to put my foot down. We told FIL last night at the Kings game and he is going to pass the word to MIL - he understands, but I know that this is the beginning of WWIII.
I understand that we don't have kids yet - but still I think we are being pulled in way too many directions. Plus, we will see MIL, FIL, his grandma and aunts at my aunts Christmas party on 12/20 (MIL is my aunts asst...but that's a whole other story).
Let it begin....
Re: MIL Holiday Drama
Wow that is a lot of driving and I think it is the best time. Imagine when you do start having kids that would be a pain to drag them around for the holidays.
Browneye- we are in the same pot our family is about 5 minutes away from each other and makes the holidays easier.
Ah, the joys of the holidays!!
My MIL is a real piece of work when it comes to the holidays as well. I put my foot down this year and we are flying up to the Bay Area on Christmas day...yet MIL still pitched a fit calling DH telling him he needed to get his priorities straight....nice...
Yikes, we just do Palmdale - Lake Hughes - Valencia and back home, and that is more then enough for me! I can't imagine added even more stops and drive time. Why do familie have to cause so much drama at xmas! They should add boxing day (day after xmas) as a holiday as they do in england. That way there are 2 days to split between families!
I told DH I want to do dinner at our house next year and have everyone come to us. Soon the boys will be old enought and will want to play with their toys - not spend the whole day driving around for quick pit stops!
Amen!