Why Being Married Is WAY Better Than Being Single!

monalisam

Hey, Newlywed Nesters. This is my first post on the Nest, and I can't believe I'm going to say this, but I'm already hitting my 1 year anniversary in a few weeks! And I've been having wedding dreams all over again!

Anyway, I'd love to pick your newlywed brains for an article I'm inspired to write for my blog. May I?

Tell me... why is being married WAY better than being single? Tell me all your crazy, sweet, romantic, funny ideas! 

ReturnOfKuus

You know... I'm not sure that it is.  Don't get me wrong, I enjoy it, but I also enjoyed being single, and I don't think it's being married I like so much as the particular guy I'm married to.

It is nice to know that if I choke or have a stroke at home, I probably won't die.

BulgariHeart

Nesties.

Sillygirl45

Ummmm....I waited until I was 35 to get married. I was so sick of people treating me like there was something wrong with me for not being married yet. This question really rubs me the wrong way. It's even worse now that I realize I was right. I am treated completely differently now that I am married. So my answer is a big NOTHING! I love my husband because he is the right person for me. Not because being married is "better"

lisa2008boo

1. You always have someone to go through life with good and bad you don't have to face it alone. 

2. Financially lets face it we have all fought over money, but it is nice to combine forces and bring in two incomes vs one many singles are struggling just to afford rent these days. 

3. It helps keep you grounded and keeps you out of trouble. 

4. You can enjoy dreaming and planning your future together. 

5. There is at least one other person in the world you can pee in front of. lol

SmrBrd2012

Sillygirl45 said:

Ummmm....I waited until I was 35 to get married. I was so sick of people treating me like there was something wrong with me for not being married yet. This question really rubs me the wrong way. It's even worse now that I realize I was right. I am treated completely differently now that I am married. So my answer is a big NOTHING! I love my husband because he is the right person for me. Not because being married is "better"

100% agree with this. While I very much enjoy having a partner to share my life with, this question really rubs me the wrong way too. I have friends that felt like the had to speed up the process to find their soulmates and sometimes I wonder if some people rush into things too quickly just to make sure they aren't alone.

GilliC

Let's see...

1. Immigration issues.  (It's easier to get a visa for a spouse rather than for a long-term, non-legal partner.)

2. Insurance coverage (in the event that one partner is unemployed or has poor health insurance)

3. Tax advantages

4. Hospital visitation rights

5. Sex (if you subscribe to a moral code that forbids this outside of marriage)

Other than that, I can't really see any reasons that being married is better than being unmarried.

WendyGR

I can tell you that the question is flawed - it's NOT always better to be married. I was way better off being single than being married to my first husband. Don't get me wrong, I love being married to DH, and I know I am better being married to him than not being married to him, but as previous posters said, it's not really a matter of marriage being "better."

doglove

ReturnOfKuus said:

You know... I'm not sure that it is.  Don't get me wrong, I enjoy it, but I also enjoyed being single, and I don't think it's being married I like so much as the particular guy I'm married to.

It is nice to know that if I choke or have a stroke at home, I probably won't die.

Yeah I'm kind of here. Being single and being married each have their pluses and minuses.

EastCoastBride

WendyGR said:

I can tell you that the question is flawed - it's NOT always better to be married. I was way better off being single than being married to my first husband. Don't get me wrong, I love being married to DH, and I know I am better being married to him than not being married to him, but as previous posters said, it's not really a matter of marriage being "better."

Yeah, this.  If you want to ask "what do YOU like better about being married", it's a personal question about each of our experiences.  But the question you asked?  It's going to make people defensive - even married people!

nauticallife

This could be taken the wrong way, but my insecurities are gone.  In relationships it was always this tiny part of me that would be scared they would leave me.  He's stuck with me now! (mwahahah )

anssett

candycem said:

This could be taken the wrong way, but my insecurities are gone.  In relationships it was always this tiny part of me that would be scared they would leave me.  He's stuck with me now! (mwahahah )

lol. No he's not. The divorce rate in this country is cold hard truth of that. 

Kimbus22

I don't think you can make a blanket statement like that. Being married isn't necessarily better than being single.  It depends on the people in the relationship, how the treat one another and what they want from life.

I like being married because when my kid is being an asshole and I need a break, there is another adult living in the house to deal with him.

doglove

candycem said:

This could be taken the wrong way, but my insecurities are gone.  In relationships it was always this tiny part of me that would be scared they would leave me.  He's stuck with me now! (mwahahah )

A piece of paper doesn't guarantee that someone will not leave you. It just makes the process a little more difficult. 

ladyflyingace

If I have another heart attack in the dead of night, someone is around to call the ambulance!  

aimindahouse

Umm...well, I had a blast being single, but I love being married as well. I agree with the other ladies, it's the person, not necessarily the marriage that makes it great to be married.

silverspring822

I hate being married. It is comparable to hell. I don't know what the hell I was thinking. My husband is a selfish, immature, spoiled, disgusting, fat, hairy prick who I loathe. The sound of his voice is repulsive. The sight of him is worse. I hate him. He is mean and is nevr sorry. So tired of his crap.

aboxofchocolates

It's only better if you married the right person and you were both ready for that commitment.  Many people are in a hurry to say they are a wife and end up hating it in a few years.  There is also nothing wrong with being single.  I had some great times when I was single.  It is just a different phase of life you can't compare them.

LD1970

Flawed question.  I've liked both sets of circs.

NoneForUs

Writing an article like that will make you look smug and self righteous. 

catsareniice1

I MUCH prefer being single!!

 Not just because my ex was not fit for me. It's just better. I can do what I want. I hate being linked to someone. It's peaceful. Also, I don't have to run around like a nut on holidays.

dutchgirl76

Perhaps you should try a different angle...thinking about getting married? Here's some great reasons to take the plunge. There are good and bad sides to marriage vs. single. Some people are in long term relationships who don't get married (I don't get it but that's not my business.) You're going to offend a lot of people who might choose a career, a location, family any number of things over the commitment of a spouse. Sometimes you have to choose you first, doesn't make you a bad person, doesn't mean you don't want to get married. What about those who haven't found the right person for whatever reason (including the desire to have a career, a life, travel etc. without having to add another person to the mix)?