Trouble in Paradise
mandi12
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kicked my husband out... to the garage
i caught him talking to other women before but this time was worse. bad enough that im trying to figure out if divorce is right for us. were seeing a marriage counselor and trying to figure out what to do but in the mean time i cant live with him. i told him i need space and we cant live together right now bc we just cant get along. its pretty bad between us. i really think we need to live apart for at least a few months to work on some major relationship issues without chores and little pet peeves getting in the way. he slept in his car for 2 days because he refuses to go to his parents. i found a room for rent and set up a visit to check it out but he refused. i would go live with my mom for a bit but we have 2 dogs and a kid together so i think it makes more sense for him to leave. since hes refusing to live anywhere but home i decided to convert the garage to a makeshift apt. i set it up like a studio apt. the only thing thats missing is plumbing. hes gotta come in the house to use the bathroom. i put a little effort into it just to see if he'd go for it. so far hes stayed there 2 nights. so im willing to fix it up a little more and make it really livable for him but my mom is giving me grief about having my husband sleep in a garage so id kinda like a strangers opinion on this... i was, and still am, willing to find him a room to rent but he just wont go for it!
Re: kicked my husband out... to the garage
You H is a dirt bag. He continues to cheat on you and you make him an apt in your garage?
So, now he can do all his women calling in the privacy of his very own appt. that you've made for him. Nice. He is a lucky man.
How many times does he have to do this before you finally understand he is a douche?
As i said on the other board, change all the locks when he is gone for the day -- and when he returns, he will be shit out of luck. Too damn bad.
File for divorce and get rid of this piece of trash.
You are playing a little game --- I like to call this the "The So Close Yet So Far" Game. It's like you TOLD him to go...but little ole hubby is still living only a heartbeat away and you think that somehow this makes things better.
Don't play that game.
Once a cheater always a cheater, as you can see; you have said he's done this before.
Don't let him play games with you; file and get tested. This is a bum.
Maybe not an HOA, but her H has an HO. hee hee
Or maybe 2. Or 3.. Or 4..... or.....
Get some common sense and get rid of this piece of shit you call an "H". And get yourself to a therapist. Evidently you let the roof fall in on you and you still think that somehow he can change his stripes. Not going to happen.
If this is what you want, then he needs to get the hell out of the garage and into a place of his own, even if it is a room at the YMCA.
I wonder how he slept in that car for 2 days without a cop banging on his window...unless you were solicitious enough to let him stay in the driveway.
1. How is the marraige counseling going and what does the counselor suggest
3. Are you trying to work things out together or is this more of a sinking ship?
C'mon....somebody can't possibly be this dumb. Or could they?
Willing to bet he was at some chick's house for a couple of days and she too gave him the heave. Wouldn't be surprised.
Good luck with the counseling and everything!!!
He needs to prove to you that he loves you and that his behavior has stopped and will stop forever. Divorce is not an option unless EXTREME betrayal. Marriage is a lot of work on both ends, and divorce is too easy.
I think you two need to reevaluate what you want, and find a way to make it work. If you need to babysit him for a bit, then so be it, he needs to RE gain your trust again, and if he really truly loves you and wants to be with you than there should be no arguing that!
He needs to prove to you that he loves you and that his behavior has stopped and will stop forever. Divorce is not an option unless EXTREME betrayal. Marriage is a lot of work on both ends, and divorce is too easy.
I think you two need to reevaluate what you want, and find a way to make it work. If you need to babysit him for a bit, then so be it, he needs to RE gain your trust again, and if he really truly loves you and wants to be with you than there should be no arguing that!
Meaningless.
Maybe he's gone and gotten a second phone the OP doesn't know about and he's in touch with her using another phone -- and besides, what good will access do?
The worm is in the apple:he's cheated and that's a dealbreaker. His emotional committment is long gone.
Get rid of this guy asap.
Divorce is not an option unless EXTREME betrayal.
So what do you consider "extreme betrayal, then? Adultery isn't extreme betrayal? oh yes it is...and it is a dealbreaker.
DEALBREAKER. Just like being a drunk is a dealbreaker, addictions are a dealbreaker, "forsaking all others" is a dealbreaker and abuse of a spouse is a dealbreaker.
That's just to name only a few dealbreakers.
It's a dealbreaker? End of him. No 2 ways about it. And no way back.
These "friendships" are not friendships and "talking" is not just "talking." And the OP has also said "worse" this time.
And we will also bet that he's had sex with these women, also.
Either way, what is there here for her? there's nothing. Once a cheater, always a cheater. She needs to make sure he's gone for good.
Emotional affairs can be worked through! Absolutely.
all I have to say is::: fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on ME!!
He definitely needs to go!!!
it says in the bible that if a man looks at another woman with lust that he has already committed adultery in his heart and mind...