Thursday Randoms

EliStar

booknerd226 said:

NorthernLghts said:

jackiback said:

booknerd226 said:

My SIL had her baby on Monday and I feel frustrated because she smoked the whole pregnancy and is currently smoking still, even though she is breastfeeding. I don't want to feel like a judgmental person and I definitely don't usually say anything about moms in general. But it worries me what all that nicotine is doing to him. 

I'm super non-judgy with parents because I know it's hard and you do what you've gotta do, but my judging-you-o-meter goes off the charts when I see a pregnant woman or new parent smoking. Come on, it's 2013. What are you doing? 

One of my co-workers told us she smoked throughout her pregnancy (this was over 20 yrs ago). However she also said that if by some miracle she found herself pregnant today, she still wouldn't quit, even knowing what she knows now :-O

I'm not a parent so I really try not to judge at all. But I just can't get over this. It worried me her whole pregnancy and she says he "came out fine" so why bother quitting now? Ugh.

This makes me see red. Ugh. Poor little guy. 

pinkybooklover09

booknerd226 said:

NorthernLghts said:

jackiback said:

booknerd226 said:

My SIL had her baby on Monday and I feel frustrated because she smoked the whole pregnancy and is currently smoking still, even though she is breastfeeding. I don't want to feel like a judgmental person and I definitely don't usually say anything about moms in general. But it worries me what all that nicotine is doing to him. 

I'm super non-judgy with parents because I know it's hard and you do what you've gotta do, but my judging-you-o-meter goes off the charts when I see a pregnant woman or new parent smoking. Come on, it's 2013. What are you doing? 

One of my co-workers told us she smoked throughout her pregnancy (this was over 20 yrs ago). However she also said that if by some miracle she found herself pregnant today, she still wouldn't quit, even knowing what she knows now :-O

I'm not a parent so I really try not to judge at all. But I just can't get over this. It worried me her whole pregnancy and she says he "came out fine" so why bother quitting now? Ugh.

Please refer to my siggy...because um, yeah.

Menrandes

shellmh said:

Menrandes said:

In two weeks we are going on a yearly vacation with the in-laws.  I'm dreading it.  There's a kitchen in the cabin but they love to go out to eat for every meal even when they are not on vacation.  I was diagnosed with Celiac in January and so far I've had really miserable experiences at restaurants.  For them family time is meal time, and I've already gotten guilt for expressing my opinion about cooking in the cabin more often this year. 
But I feel like their want to go out for every meal trumps my health and I don't know what to do about it.

Just because you're on vacation with them doesn't mean they get to dictate what you do daily.  If you want to stay at the cabin for meals, do it.  If they bitch about it, tell them you'll send them your doctors bills when you're forced into the ER.

What does you H say about this? If they aren't listening to you, have your H say something to them. He should care about your health, even if they don't!

Oh he agrees with me.  Having grown up eating most of his meals at restaurants, he's definitely more into the cooking at home thing now anyway.  He and I both have explained the issues, but it doesn't seem to sink in.  The last time we all went out to eat I was pretty confident in my choices for dinner, but I ended up in so much pain I couldn't stand up straight for two days and I looked around 7 months pregnant.  I pretty much spent the next few days in bed because it wore me out so much.  And they saw this happen, so I don't understand the disconnect!

We've pretty much laid out now that I'm going to have eat in the cabin and if they want me to go out with them I will, but I wont be getting food.  If it's a problem then I guess we don't have to go at all.