COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS?

jordancorrine2015

recently my fiance lost his job. i have become so stressed that anything and everything he does or says makes me angry. on top of all this we only have one car and yesterday he was so busy with his friends he forgot me at work. i had to call a friend to come and get me. now i know he is looking for a job and is doing odds and ins to make a little cash but i still can't stop being angry.

on top of that he gets angry back at me for asking about his day or if he has found a job yet?

i know its bickering and bitching that i'm doing i know its not the right way to go about doing it

but i can't help but want better than what we have. with my job we barely have food out stomachs we are living paycheck to paycheck.

its stressfull for being only 23yrs old and a college student. i don't want to stop going to school to get a second job.

what do i do?

AND

how do i control my temper for these kinds of situations?

magsugar13

Why was he so busy with friends instead of being so busy looking for a job?

How long has he been out of work? What kind of work? He should take any type of job at this point or else you guys wont be able to pay rent or eat.

DO NOT stop going to school to get another job. You are doing your part, time for him to do his. Is he also in school?

I know you are scared and on edge but you have to find a better way of communicating. You have every right asking about jobs, but maybe your approach is off.

The bigger problem here is that if you cant get along and communicate now before you are married, what happens after the I dos?

brittanymclark

I've been there, done that. You just have to continue what you are doing and be patient. Maybe, (if you have time) send him some job openings that you find, to help him get started. I started doing that with my, then fiance. He needed help getting started, and he ended getting a job 2 weeks later. They just need encouragement and to know that you are there to support him every step of the way.

I know it will be hard for you, as I lost my patience NUMEROUS times...but just let it go, and continue to work hard in school and at your job.

As for communication, it is one of the most important aspects of marriage. You both need to be able to talk to each other, and understand where the other is coming from. Without it, it is hard to function.

jordancorrine2015

Not long really and i just recently got sick and it kinda made my pay checks kinda short but i normally can handle it but with me being sick its not paying the bills.

we do have trouble communicating at times and i am the worst i sometimes scream and yell till i can't anymore. its never physical though with makes me thankful that he isn't the type.

but he can get pretty stern too. i recently just got on a some meds for anxiety issues. and that has calmed me down a lot but i still get frustrated at him. i don't yell but i get kinda stern.

idk what to do its only been like a few months since the lay off and i know how are it was to find a job right now in this economy it took me 6 months to find one.

so i get it but i'm just being just as hard on him as he was on me i know an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.......except that last little dude/dudette with the one eye .