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jgui3087

Hello all I need a little advice on how I can make my husband sexually interested in me again. For a few months I have been turning him down because I have been super stressed out with work and now that I have a new job Im feeling much beter but my husband tells me that after me turning him down so much he just int sexually intersted anymore. I also just recently found out that he was having an affair which he has given up becaseu he said that he wants to be with his family and that she was not important. WHAT SHOULD I DO?????????????????????????????????

oldbugle

Well you could try lying spreadeagled and naked on black satin when he comes in,..but probably your time would be better spent congratulating yourself on your new job because you have paid a very high price for it.  

You could also try some introspection and attempt to work out what is really important to you in life.

Thirdly, you could try to put yourself into your husbands shoes and think what the months of rejection by your life partner does to ones personal feelings and identity.......and spare some small feeling for his ego and understand that he is not just some sort of sexual robot to have his buttons pushed in the right sequence now that you have remembered what he is....

That way, you will hopefully not make the same error with you next husband.......

TarponMonoxide

Well, there's yer answer why he wasn't so hot to get into your pants. What a BUM:

For a few months I have been turning him down because I have been super stressed out with work and now that I have a new job Im feeling much beter but my husband tells me that after me turning him down so much he just int sexually intersted anymore. I also just recently found out that he was having an affair which he has given up becaseu he said that he wants to be with his family and that she was not important. WHAT SHOULD I DO?????????????????????????????????

I'm gonna talk to you like a Dutch Uncle:

Why do you want to make it your quest and your battle to get him *interested* in you *agan*? He's cheated!

Do you think a guy like this is worth your efforts and time and trouble for anything?

Why do you want to waste precious time and energy on a bum like this?

I suggest you do what is best for yourself:

File for divorce and don't look back.

And get tested. One never knows.

Wishing you luck.

moonprincessd

Um, just because you aren't having sex means he can cheat. Go to counseling, there is more at stake here than just not getting sex.

Wulfgar

It sounds like you might have been giving him a cold shoulder for longer then a few months.  If you want to save the marriage the two of you will have to go to counseling.  It sounds like you might have some major communication issues.