Trying to get two people together

fhorns147

My husband and I decided that one of his coworkers, "Gina," might be a good match for a friend of ours, "Carl."  H organized a night out with a few coworkers including Gina that also included significant others.  He made an excuse for Carl to come so they could get a chance to talk, and we could see if they got along well.  They did spend most of the time talking to each other.  Carl definitely liked Gina.  Gina seemed to enjoy talking to Carl, but I'm not sure if she liked him in that way.  (I don't know her as well, and she seems the type to not want to be obvious about liking someone.)  With that in mind, I'm wondering what the next step for Carl should be?  I wouldn't be surprised if he asks H and me what he should do, and it would be nice to have good advice.  It would be difficult/awkward to arrange more casual meetings between them.  She doesn't have a Facebook account or anything like that.  We could give him her phone number, but I'm worried it would seem creepy for him to call her considering she didn't give him her number.  What does a nice guy with good intentions do when he meets someone he likes and doesn't want to be awkward or creepy?

JemmaWRX

If he wants to talk to her, ask her if you can give him her number. After that, let them figure it out.

TarponMonoxide

If Carl was that interested, he'd have asked for her number. If Gina was that interested, she would have asked for his.

Maybe go as far as to say to him "So what did you think of Gina?" and let him pick up the ball with his reply. If he is receptive maybe say "So why don't you give her a call? Grab a bite to eat or something?"

Do nothing else. Let it progress from there.

moonprincessd

You could ask Gina first what she thought about Carl or have your husband do it since she's his coworker. If she mentions that she liked him or anything then you could ask if she wouldn't giving Carl her number. 

Otherwise I wouldn't push it, if they had really hit it off, one of them would have given the other a number.

Leftie22

I agree with others that you should leave it. He would have asked "Gina" for her number if he wanted it. If he does ask you for her number, ask "Gina" first before you give it to him. But I think he would already have asked her if he really liked her. Forcing the matter would just be awkward.

fhorns147

Saying he would have asked her for her phone number if he wanted it is just not true.  Men sometimes don't ask for phone numbers when they want to because of fear of rejection.  Seriously, ask any man.  I am 100% sure that Carl is interested in her.  He even asked me if she's single.  I think he just lost confidence and didn't manage to get the question out. 

EastCoastBride

JemmaWRX said:

If he wants to talk to her, ask her if you can give him her number. After that, let them figure it out.

This.  If one of the expresses interest in seeing/talking to the other, facilitate that as best you can.  Otherwise -- back away. 

And honestly- be careful w/ setting people up!  I've done this once.  ONCE.  And that is all I''ll ever do it.  If it doesn't work out, it kind of ends up being a little awkward!   That's more the reason why I say that if THEY mention wanting to pursue it, work w/ it, but otherwise - stay out of it.  Do NOT create anymore 'casual get togethers' w/ the sole purpose of getting them in the same room.

Leftie22

fhorns147 said:

Saying he would have asked her for her phone number if he wanted it is just not true.  Men sometimes don't ask for phone numbers when they want to because of fear of rejection.  Seriously, ask any man.  I am 100% sure that Carl is interested in her.  He even asked me if she's single.  I think he just lost confidence and didn't manage to get the question out. 

If this is the case, could you as, Gina what she thought and if she wants you to pass on her number? I think you should approach her first, because no woman appreciates having a dude call her if she's not into him. I definitely wouldn't give him her number without her consent.

elihearts

Read Jane Austen's Emma.  Refrain from playing matchmaker.