CPW: Goal Weight

BruinsBabe33

brij2006 said:

@panderp & @bruinsbabe33

Thanks girls. I needed this today. These past couple of months have been quite a ride in regards to my exercise and lifestyle. I know that I need to be better about the way I view myself. It's just been quite difficult since the PCOS diagnosis. I didn't have any "girly" problems until I had gained a lot of weight in college. So I've felt like my choices then have snowballed into my problems now. Which just makes me angry and turn to food and alcohol.  Which I know aren't going to help the weight or the PCOS.

Stupid emotions. They suck!

It does suck. A lot. Have you ever thought about talking to someone about your thoughts on the issue? I know you have said that your DH will keep you motivated and point out if you are turning to food, and if that works for you that is great, but sometimes it is important to talk to someone about these thoughts before they turn in to compulsions. Feel free to PM me any time you want to talk about it. You are worth so much more than your body image and weight. You are gorgeous and it is important to acknowledge that, but there is a lot more to you than what you and others see physically.

Panderp

@ecinereb I know that it's still in charts, but most doctors evaluating weight & health do not use the BMI scale as a measure of health-- often because it's inaccurate at describing the "health" of an individual (muscle weighs more than fat, so dividing your body weight by your height can be incredibly inaccurate.) 

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/31/health/31brod.html?_r=0

@thecuddleeffect- well I would, but my RE is correct (I don't know about yours). Both my BMI and whole body fat are more than that are healthy for me. If you carry your weight in your abdomen, it may also be true for you. It sucks, but the doctor's are correct about weight loss and chances of success. @aimothy is a great success story there. 

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/31/health/31brod.html?_r=0

DangerMuffin23

Just came back from my physical and my cholesterol is down 40 points! Everything in the normal ranges! Woot woot!

islandmonkey8

I just want to add, that you ladies here are amazing. The support you (we) all show for each other in our struggles (be it emotional, physical, TTC, weight, or whatever related) is incredible. I love you all cause you're all awesome.

brij2006

 

islandmonkey8 said:

I just want to add, that you ladies here are amazing. The support you (we) all show for each other in our struggles (be it emotional, physical, TTC, weight, or whatever related) is incredible. I love you all cause you're all awesome.

This 100%! 

Also, @bruinsbabe33 YGPM.

abt8113

I have constantly struggled with my weight even when it is a healthy range. I was also bulimic. I still see a skewed picture of myself in a mirror at times. I think it is important to really identify why you are eating (which is sounds like you are doing).
What has been best for me, is working out and watching what I eat. While there are still times that I emotionally eat, it has gotten a lot better. Remember you can always talk to us! Do you have cable with on demand? There are some great free videos that you can workout to on there!

callitcompulsive

I picked the weight I am now. Frankly, I'm happy with where I am now. I don't hate how I look, I don't hide when someone drags out a camera. I've got like 5 lbs to go before I'm no longer considered "obese" to medical professionals, but still another 30-40 away from being in a "normal" range for my height.

It's really a mental thing that manifests itself physically, IMO. Or should I say IME. FOR ME, it was mental/emotional. I was depressed, lonely, sad. Out of control. I weighed 215 lbs at my heaviest. At 5'2" that's a LOT. I felt shitty, I looked shitty, and the only thing that made me feel better was food. A lot of soul searching and reflection and trying not to depend so much on others to make ME feel validated as a person, I am now in the high 160's, and you know what? I'm ok. I like myself just the way I am. That means I had to come to terms with the fact that I'll never be a size six. Hell, I might never be in a single-digit size. That's ok. That's finally ok with me. You need to get to this point. It's not a point of giving up and not caring (not at all), It's a point where you are happy with yourself, have a good balance between food/exercise, and aren't trying to "get back into x article of clothes you wore 15lbs ago."

Take care of yourself, @brij2006. You're wonderful just the way you are.