when to let a friendship go

jennifermcnatt

I have  had a good friend for several years. We now live in different states, both married etc.. I realize friendships change over time and that  they should, Lately the friendship is very one sided me being the one that always emails etc.., now i seldom if ever hear from her. I realize living in different states make  keeping up a friendship harder. Should I just let the friendship die or do what I have been  doing. I don't want to be the bad guy, but i feel like its time to move on. Is this just life is busy or is my friendship dead?

chrisnjay05212010

i had that with a good friend from high school.  she transferred to a college in Texas and little by little the contact was all one sided, by me. I began to feel hurt by it and eventually stopped contacting her all together. I dont think its fair for it to be one sided, thats not how a friendship works.  Things didnt end on bad terms, we just went our separate ways.

Leftie22

My once best friend moved away and it's been 8 years now since we lived in the same city. Contact has dwindled for us too. I find that I always initiate contact with her too, but at least she always writes back. I'm not quite ready to throw in the towel yet, so I'm willing to be the one to initiate. However, if you're feeling hurt that you always initiate contact, or if she doesn't write back, I think it's fine to call it quits. Totally depends how you feel. I'm sure at some point I'l stop contacting my friend too, just not quite ready yet!

MLE2010

I moved out of State a year ago. I still talk with my BFF everyday, see her when I go home and her and her family have already been out to visit.

That being said, if it was all in me I'd let the friendship go if it just me having to keep it alive.

anssett

If you're feeling like you're putting a lot of effort in and not getting a return, dial back your effort. If you end up in the same place at the same time go get coffee and see if the friendship works in short bursts, when you're together. I don't correspond with anyone but family, but I have a great time seeing old friends every year or two when we happen to be in the same city.

Sillygirl45

I wouldn't try so hard and just let things fall where they may. There's nothing wrong with growing apart, especially with living in different states. I've had many friendships dwindle over the years and I still live in the same city as many old friends. Life gets busy for everyone. I would probably just contact her if you happen to be near her and would like to meet up.

jennifermcnatt

Thanks everyone!!