Has anyone regretted their Maid of Honor decision?

jonandjulia

I'm having a hard time trying to forget about my regretful decision of making someone my MOH. It's been 3 months since the wedding and it's been bothering me, especially because I should have actually chosen one of my bridesmaids to take on that task. I even heard her talking to one of the groomsmen on our wedding day about how she wished she was the MOH instead Any advice on how to overcome this regretful feeling? Thanks.

BittseyZ

I 100% regret my decision.  I've made sure to spend extra time chatting with the other girls and have actually ended up cutting my MOH out of my life (she had some pretty extreme behavior during the planning process and the wedding itself). I've just chalked it up to a learning experience and am more aware of how I choose my friends. 

Samantha&Seth

@jonandjulia - I too regretted my decision in my maid of honor choice. the "break-up" was awful. huge blowout. She completely went ballistic after I found out from the other bridesmaids that she was not responding to the group facebook forum they made to plan details for the shower and bachelorette party, etc. She was not only NOT responding, but she completely disregarded everyone's attempts to get her involved (in what she was supposed to be leading)...for over THREE months. I had no idea since I was not included in the secret detail planning but one of my good friends (who i should have chosen to be my MOH to begin with) mentioned to me that the MOH was MIA! It was so upsetting I cried my eyes out for weeks. How do you ask one of the other bridesmaids to step up and be MOH? who wants to be the "runner up" like that? Well luckily I didnt have too, the other bridesmaids stepped up and equally shared their parts. On my wedding pamphlet I listed them all as Maids of Honor instead of bridesmaids - all in all it ended up working out wonderfully. Me and the original MOH no longer speak, I have blocked her number from my phone, I have blocked her on Instagram and Facebook and Twitter - everything. It's for the best. It was very hard to transition to speaking with someone everyday forever to not being a part of their life at all. I have still yet to "overcome" the feeling of "kicking her out" of my wedding and my life. I miss her alot. But what she did during what was supposed to be (and was) the happiest day of my life is just unforgivable. you truly find out who your true friends are in time of need. Good Luck to you!