birth control and condoms

MuckeyMuck

it's a personal thing with me but do you guys wear condoms if you're on birth control?

kss20

Nope!  But if I weren't in a relationship with someone I trusted completely (and knew their personal health record ) I would.

 

In fact, even in past serious relationships I did, because I wasn't AS comfortable with the.

SURFERxGIRL

I wouldn't be comfortable not using condoms unless I knew I could trust the other person and like pp said, I knew their personal/medical history. My now H and I have been together for 9 years and in the past we've used only condoms, condoms and BC Pills (when we were 1st getting intimate and also again when I was terrified of having an unplanned pregnancy), and currently we just use BC pills.

I think for each person it's very different. My H has never minded using condoms. I've been on BC pills since I was 15 but stopped for a few years when I was in college for health reasons. When I was thinking about going back in BC he told me I didn't have to if I didn't want to and that condoms were fine with him. I guess it just depends on what you're comfortable with.

MuckeyMuck

so he really doesn't need to wear a condom... i've been on the pill for over a year... are there certain days he should wear a condom?

anssett

MuckeyMuck said:

so he really doesn't need to wear a condom... i've been on the pill for over a year... are there certain days he should wear a condom?

Is this your exclusive sexual partner? Have you both been tested for STIs prior to stopping condom use? Condoms do a lot more than prevent babies! I was also taught as a young girl that no birth control is 100% safe, so the safest way to avoid getting pregnant (while having sex) is to use 2 forms of birth control together. Then the rare times they don't work get much less likely. If having a baby now would derail your education, or be financially disastrous, or medically unsafe, keep the condoms on.

SURFERxGIRL

anssett said:

MuckeyMuck said:

so he really doesn't need to wear a condom... i've been on the pill for over a year... are there certain days he should wear a condom?

Is this your exclusive sexual partner? Have you both been tested for STIs prior to stopping condom use? Condoms do a lot more than prevent babies! I was also taught as a young girl that no birth control is 100% safe, so the safest way to avoid getting pregnant (while having sex) is to use 2 forms of birth control together. Then the rare times they don't work get much less likely. If having a baby now would derail your education, or be financially disastrous, or medically unsafe, keep the condoms on.

This is the exact reason that for years we used condoms and the BC pills. I was terrified of one failing (we did have a condom break once!). A lot of our friends at the time were getting pregnant accidentally and were totally unprepared and I had no desire for that to happen.

MuckeyMuck

oh sorry.. i didn't realize i didn't put that it was my husband. we just got married a few weeks ago. any certain days that he should wear a condom to be safe?

amandamarie2

I'm on birth control pills so most of the time we don't worry about condoms. However, the week in the middle of my cycle (when I'm ovulating) we use both just to be safe. A baby right now is not an option so we're not taking any chances.

doeydo

It is recommended to use at least two types of contraceptives.  However, my FI and I only use my birth control pills. 

Kimbus22

I normally just use the pill.  The only time I've used condoms too was when I first went back on the pill after my kid was born. I wanted to double up the first month.

anssett

It seems like everyone except OP got the point about 2 forms of birth control to be extra safe against pregnancy. Oh well. 

MuckeyMuck

no i got it. just wondered what other people did.... thanks

moonprincessd

Not sure if this helps, but I'm not and never will be on birth control. We use condoms and NFP (also known as sympto thermal method or fertility awareness), 3 years, no baby or accidents. 

artbyallie

MuckeyMuck said: oh sorry.. i didn't realize i didn't put that it was my husband. we just got married a few weeks ago. any certain days that he should wear a condom to be safe?
If you are taking the pill as directed (same time every single day, never missing a pill, not taking herbs/medication that interferes with its effectiveness) you should not be ovulating at all and thus never any more fertile at any particular time.

JemmaWRX

No but I've been sleeping with him for nearly 10 years, we're married, etc.  (I'm actually off BC now).  I would use condoms and BC if it was a newer relationship, didn't know his sexual history, etc.  Basically if there was any threat of STDs I would double up and use condoms too.

JemmaWRX

MuckeyMuck said:

oh sorry.. i didn't realize i didn't put that it was my husband. we just got married a few weeks ago. any certain days that he should wear a condom to be safe?

If you're on BCPs you aren't ovulating so you don't need to worry about certain days.

Sillygirl45

The only time you would ovulate is if you missed pills. The people getting pregnant on accident likely aren't being that careful, or they are taking antibiotics or other meds that interfere with birth control. You need to take your pills at the same time daily. If you miss any, use a back up method.

Maybride2

Oh Lordy. This whole thread is pretty damning proof of how awful sex education is in our schools/society.

artbyallie

Maybride2 said:

Oh Lordy. This whole thread is pretty damning proof of how awful sex education is in our schools/society.

Amen.

MrsS728

Before my husband and I were married I was on the pill and we used condoms. Once we were married we relied solely on BCP because we were married and if it happened it happened, our "timeline" would just speed up a little quicker. Now we are at the point where we aren't trying, but we also aren't preventing either.

MedStudent13

The only way you need to worry about "certain days" being more safe than others is if you aren't on hormones and using condoms exclusively. I use FAM and around ovulation when fertile mucus is present I would avoid all genital contact, since with condoms (as with any barrier method), they can only 'fail' if you use them around ovulation.