Trouble in Paradise
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Need to leave my marriage...
My marriage was over pretty much as soon as it started 6 years ago. I kept trying to make it work but I think I have always known I was fooling myself. I know that I need to get a divorce but I can't seem to do it. I'm so tired and so sad. I want a happy marriage and a true partner and kids. And I know I'll never have that if I stay. But I'm 32 and I'm scared of being alone and starting over. I know I need to just do it but I can't seem to put one foot in front of the other. I have great friends and family but I just can't seem to reach out to anyone for help or support. Maybe because then it will be real. So I'm trying to start here.
Re: Need to leave my marriage...
32 is not old, not by any long shot. YOu've got plenty of time to recover from a divorce, date and then remarry and have kids.
The longer you tarry the more painful it will be to start the ball rolling and begin a happier life for yourself. See if my suggestion of seeing a counselor (and the clergyperson, if applicable) will help --- you may have to go for several sessions. it hellps to bounce the circumstances of your situation off a skilled professional; you'll get valuble input and suggestions. GL.
well if there was a single doubt in my mind, which there wasn't... it is gone now. now it's just filled with total betrayal and anger. he has been having an affair with one of my "best friends". and the worst part is the other friends in this group believe that is wasn't physical. he has been driving to her house in the middle of the week when he was supposed to be working in another state. her husband has her phone records and for the last 3 months they talk for hours upon hours. and when i thought he was at a bachelor party, he was alone somewhere with her till 4am. at this point, i am so over him i don't even care. i just can't believe anyone, my "friends" can actually believe all they were doing was talking. it makes me so mad that this woman, who is married with 2 kids, and was a bridesmaid in my wedding is going to get away with this. i know i need to just move on. i have other supportive, loving people in my life that see this situation clear as day. i'm just so angry and hurt.
i am staying at my parents and move into my new apartment soon. and i am actually excited to start fresh. but some minutes this feels absolutley impossible.