October 2012 Weddings
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My birthday story- it's kind of long
This is for you @xxjen015!
So my 30th birthday was in June. About a month before my birthday, H made a big deal that he got my gift. It came in the mail and I wasn't even curious, which is a big shock for me. After he opened it, he said he wasn't happy with the gift and he was returning it. About a week before my birthday I asked if he ever returned the gift and he said, "No, I didn't feel like it. I'll give it to you and if you don't like it you can return it." I was instantly no longer excited for a gift.
I've had it in my head for a few months that I NEED a second wedding ring. A clone of the ring I already have so I can have one on either side of my engagement ring. I've been talking about wanting that for my birthday probably since February. Since H got the gift from Macy's, I knew it wasn't a second wedding ring because mine was custom.
The morning of my birthday, I woke up excited, as I always am. H made a big deal, gave me a big hug and kiss and asked if I wanted my gift. I said yes and he told me he needed a few minutes. He was writing out the card that he bought weeks before. He got back in bed, pulled out the shipping box and handed it to me with the card. The gift was still in the shipping plastic that things come in when you online shop. I felt so not special. H got my black diamond studs that looked kind of cheap. I definitely wouldn't have picked them out for myself. They were returned.
He felt bad because he realized he didn't make my birthday special, so he ordered flowers and had them sent to the house. I got a call at work that they were delivered and I got excited. I came home to find flowers that looked like they were from the supermarket. There was nothing special about the bouquet. The second birthday let-down.
H came home and was all proud that he sent flowers. In my bitchy way, I was like "You couldn't have sent roses?" His response was that they were expensive. I know how much florist roses cost, we can afford them multiple times over. I flipped and told him that on such an important birthday he put no effort forth. I bring it up any chance I get, which is why H is trying so hard to make our anniversary extra special. I mentioned months ago that I want a bouquet of our bridesmaid bouquets on our anniversary. I even told him to call our florist in advance to make arrangements for that. We'll see if he does that.
I really, even though it's 4 months later, want him to do something to make me to feel special about turning 30. He still hasn't realized that and I have told him that already.
To be continued after our anniversary next Sunday.
So my 30th birthday was in June. About a month before my birthday, H made a big deal that he got my gift. It came in the mail and I wasn't even curious, which is a big shock for me. After he opened it, he said he wasn't happy with the gift and he was returning it. About a week before my birthday I asked if he ever returned the gift and he said, "No, I didn't feel like it. I'll give it to you and if you don't like it you can return it." I was instantly no longer excited for a gift.
I've had it in my head for a few months that I NEED a second wedding ring. A clone of the ring I already have so I can have one on either side of my engagement ring. I've been talking about wanting that for my birthday probably since February. Since H got the gift from Macy's, I knew it wasn't a second wedding ring because mine was custom.
The morning of my birthday, I woke up excited, as I always am. H made a big deal, gave me a big hug and kiss and asked if I wanted my gift. I said yes and he told me he needed a few minutes. He was writing out the card that he bought weeks before. He got back in bed, pulled out the shipping box and handed it to me with the card. The gift was still in the shipping plastic that things come in when you online shop. I felt so not special. H got my black diamond studs that looked kind of cheap. I definitely wouldn't have picked them out for myself. They were returned.
He felt bad because he realized he didn't make my birthday special, so he ordered flowers and had them sent to the house. I got a call at work that they were delivered and I got excited. I came home to find flowers that looked like they were from the supermarket. There was nothing special about the bouquet. The second birthday let-down.
H came home and was all proud that he sent flowers. In my bitchy way, I was like "You couldn't have sent roses?" His response was that they were expensive. I know how much florist roses cost, we can afford them multiple times over. I flipped and told him that on such an important birthday he put no effort forth. I bring it up any chance I get, which is why H is trying so hard to make our anniversary extra special. I mentioned months ago that I want a bouquet of our bridesmaid bouquets on our anniversary. I even told him to call our florist in advance to make arrangements for that. We'll see if he does that.
I really, even though it's 4 months later, want him to do something to make me to feel special about turning 30. He still hasn't realized that and I have told him that already.
To be continued after our anniversary next Sunday.
Re: My birthday story- it's kind of long
DH bought me hockey tickets for my last birthday. I was so mad because he got a gift for himself on my birthday. I'm not a sports person. I enjoy spending time with him at games, but really could care less about the game. By the end of the game and a few large beers I yelled at him for being so selfish on my birthday. He has been instructed that our anniversary better be a big deal.
Keep us posted on what he does for your anniversary.
PS I'll got to a fancy dinner with you!!
@seipel12, I am sorry you got hockey tickets. I enjoy live sporting events but I definitely would not enjoy that for my birthday or on my birthday.
@islandmonkey8, I see your point, but he didn't put in effort. The earrings he ordered with plenty of time and planned them out. He didn't like them and told me he didn't and that he was going to return them. He didn't feel like returning them and what he actually told me a few days before my birthday was "I think the gift I got you is ugly but I don't feel like returning them. I'll give them to you and you can decide." I know my H thinks hard about gifts so normally, I would have kept them and wore them every day even if I didn't like them because I know the effort was there. He put forth no effort. In the morning, when he handed me a shipping box, I told him he put forth no effort, he went to work and ordered flowers and just picked anything so he wouldn't spend a lot of money. I love supermarket flowers and I buy them weekly. On my birthday, I want something more special.
He has been thinking about anniversary gifts since before me. He actually brought it up to me about 3 weeks ago. I don't know what it is, but I think it's good. I actually think it's show tickets because of something he said, I just can't figure out which show.
I mentioned the flowers last night after I posted and he had the "I have no clue what you're talking about" tone but it was the playing dumb tone, like something is planned.
@Cathyl7910 and anyone who wants to go to a fancy dinner, let me know! I sure love to eat!