Secrets?

jjbmstinco

Does anyone have anything that they can't tell anyone else?

ImperiumWife

Yes...

I'm not feeling very confident about this twirling thing.

I am worried that trying to balance J's opinions with my parents in this house shopping thing is going to ruin things between J and I.

I honestly don't know if I want a teaching job.

Sometimes I wonder if I married the wrong brother.

Ok.... feel much better now... Just don't judge too harshly.

one2andnow3

Maybe this one is because I have had a rough couple days with the kids, but sometimes I feel I am better at my job than as a mom.

shellyamf

I thought having a baby put stress into my relationship with P. Apparently this whole moving/ house selling thing is even more stressful between us. I'm worried about how P will adjust when we move. I've moved states before. I live away from my family. He hasn't done either and will be with this move. I'm also worried because he will be going from his cushy 20hours a week (maybe) job work from home to an 8-5 office job.

one2andnow3

@shellmaneth you guys will get through it. David and I were the same way when we moved here 2 years ago. We are happier now than we ever. We are close by and you guys can come over anytime.

jjbmstinco

Michelle-

J also went through that.  It took him about 3 months to adjust to not living by family.  Like Aleigha said...you will get through it.

Mine-

I made brownies just so I could eat the batter.  I told J that I am making them for him since they are his favorite.

Also we are TCC and I am super scared. 

shellyamf

Jen - I'm so excited for you guys.  I brought up when we might TTC again last night.  I think it threw P through a loop.  LOL.  I'm not ready yet, was just bringing up the topic. 

And I love brownies.  I kind of want to make some now but it's late.  Maybe I will tomorrow.  As part of our game day food. 

And thanks, Jen and Aleigha, I agree that we'll make it through.  It just might be a stressful transition for him.  I just hope he doesn't give up too soon.  He's super excited about living in Colorado so I need to stop worrying.

one2andnow3

Jen are you still charting and temping for TTC or are you going to do an OPK?

jjbmstinco

Charting/Temping. I ran out of OPK a few months ago and haven't ordered any.

one2andnow3

Well good luck. I am excited for you!

jjbmstinco

Thanks.  I am excited/nervous/anxious/sad/ every feeling you can think of.

shellyamf

Sending positive baby vibes your way! 

jjbmstinco

I just don't know if we are ready. One day I am like YEA! and other days, I am like oh crap.

one2andnow3

Jen no one can ever be 100% ready for a baby. You learn and grow. You will be a great mom!

jjbmstinco

Ah thank you. I see you and you are like super woman! You work, own a side business, have 2 kids, and an H.

I feel I give too much at work being the counselor for 300 students, IDK if I can come home and give.  In my head, I like SAHM idea but realistically I couldn't let go of the control of whats going on at work.  So then I feel bad that I would want to go back to work afterwards.

jjbmstinco

Random fact...I was raised by my babysitter because my mom couldn't afford to stay home with us. So I may have a skewed idea of daycare. I am sure that it is not like how it used to be for me.

She was a large black woman, and we were the only 2 white children in the neighborhood.  lol

one2andnow3

Hmm. Well my nanny works a lot. My daughter is extremely difficult and has had a hard start to life. I am making up for the 2 years time I was away and not in her life. Idk if that is really superwoman material. I am not a perfect wife I can hardly even get dinner on the table. I work a lot. For example I will not have a full day off for 17 days. And as I type my daughter is giving me a guilt trip about not bring at her soccer game tomorrow, because weddings are more important.

jjbmstinco

But those weddings allow her to play soccer.

one2andnow3

I know, that is one hard thing about being a mom. I do all of this so they can have the life I didn't as a kid.

jjbmstinco

Yes.  this is exactly how I feel.  We didn't get much growing up. I knew my parents loved me but they were never at any of the activities.  That always hurt, but looking back, I can see how they couldn't.  I feel like they always went to my Brother's things because "he needs someone to cheer him on and you didn't." 

Well that turned into a little therapy session.  

Is D liking the new job?

one2andnow3

Yes he is doing really well. I can tell he is happier. He doesn't bring home stress anymore. The schedule is different all week he has worked at 5 pm.

TaraW1979

I know I am a little late on this but a secret I have is that I worry if my marriage will last. Don't get me wrong, I love DH so much but we argue a lot. My mom is always saying I have to treat him better or he'll leave me.

jjbmstinco

Does she give you examples of how you can "treat him better"?