Quick intro: BF and I have been together for over two years, own a home and a puppy together, and plan to get married (but aren't officially engaged).
Recently we had a stupid argument about something small (rock vs. mulch in our landscaping). We ended up having a little argument and he hung up on me. This conversation was over the phone because he was working, which meant that the rest of our conversation had to be via e-mail.
He and I broke up shortly after we first got together, and a lot of the problems we had were related to communication. When we were talking about getting back together, we had several long discussions about better communication, which generally seem to have worked! So after this stupid fight, he and I were both able to explain ourselves using sentences like "It makes me feel __ when you ___." During this part of the conversation, I apologized for my overreaction - not taking the blame for the argument, but acknowledging that I played a part in its escalation.
The problem is that he almost never apologizes. There was even one time when he said "f*** you" (which where he grew up is apparently not as harsh as it is where I was raised) and then later said he wouldn't apologize because I provoked him...
In general we are able to move past our arguments (which are not frequent) even without an official apology from him. In general he seems to be learning from our conversations and not repeating his mistakes, but am I crazy for still wanting him to say "I'm sorry"?? Is there a good way to explain this to him?
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