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Found a Vicodin in the Car
in Married Life
Hi Ladies, you all were really helpful when I posted a little while ago about my struggles with trying to overcome my husbands cheating a few years ago. An incident happened last night and I'd love to hear what your first thought would be, and tell me I'm not crazy!!
So we only have one car and I almost never drive since I work from home. This car is like my husbands pride and joy and always cleaning it and keeping it spotless. I took the car two nights ago and opened the center console to put the garage key back and I see a large blue pill. From the code imprint on it I found that it is a Lorcet, like a Vicodin. Since his dad had just had a stroke I called his mom to ask if she'd given my husband a pill for pain or something, or if his dad is even on those pills (just trying to find a logical explanation of why this pill would be in our spotless car). Of course, no such pills are at her house.
So last night I confront my husband asking where it came from. He said he had no idea and started making jokes about it. Then said maybe it was from his mom or dad when they took the car. Then said maybe from someone at the car cleaners it fell in there when cleaning it.
What would you think??? Am I crazy for thinking something is shady?
So we only have one car and I almost never drive since I work from home. This car is like my husbands pride and joy and always cleaning it and keeping it spotless. I took the car two nights ago and opened the center console to put the garage key back and I see a large blue pill. From the code imprint on it I found that it is a Lorcet, like a Vicodin. Since his dad had just had a stroke I called his mom to ask if she'd given my husband a pill for pain or something, or if his dad is even on those pills (just trying to find a logical explanation of why this pill would be in our spotless car). Of course, no such pills are at her house.
So last night I confront my husband asking where it came from. He said he had no idea and started making jokes about it. Then said maybe it was from his mom or dad when they took the car. Then said maybe from someone at the car cleaners it fell in there when cleaning it.
What would you think??? Am I crazy for thinking something is shady?
Re: Found a Vicodin in the Car
Ah, I see. Well if it were me he would have been out of my life after the Craigslist thing. But he wasn't out of yours. One pill does not mean that he is using drugs. It really COULD have been anything. I think that you know better than anyone when/if he's lying and if you are to the point where you have to call the whole world asking where this pill came from it means one of two things:
1. He is using drugs and is a loser who doesn't deserve to be in your life
2. You truly have lost all trust in him and need to either end the relationship or seek counseling to see how he can get your trust back
I do not wish to be an alarmist but perhaps it would be wise to run a credit check on him and on you. One never knows. GL.
This doesn't bode well. If there's one pill there, there are others elsewhere.
Keep close watch on this.
Do I try a calm approach? Or a 'tell me or I'm leaving' approach? Now I'm afraid he;s going to make up what could be the most "innocent" answer something like "ok fine, my friend John asked me to hold it onto it for him" and I'll never really know if thats the truth or the easiest lie he could think up to shut me up without making me leave.
I just have all the distrust feelings I had back when I discovered the escort calling. He looked at me over and over with lies, I just don't know how I can believe him now.