help with email

amccul20

I need to tell a friend that I know is about to do her second FET that i'm pregnant.  I have meds that I want to give her but i'm worried how she'll respond to the news. she knows my story and how Ben and I did IVF and that it failed and she was very supportive.

we're not close friends through, just friends though another couple, and we see her at parties every once in a while.

I feel like there is no easy way. I know it will sting no matter what I say.

I'll tell her via fb message since thats how we've corresponded in the past

any suggestions?

amccul20

scratch this. I just sent her a very simple message.  I needed to get it over with. telling somone struggling your pregnant sucks. but you also hope that it makes them more hopeful because it can happen.

brij2006

I hope the message goes over well. 

We still haven't told our friends who started their first round of Clomid the same time we did.  She's told me how hers was unsuccessful, and they're now onto another round. She's asked me how our first round went, and I told her that we're taking a break from it. I still don't know how to tell her, and know I need to.

sparklingdiamond

I hope she receives the message well!

nightmare_of_beauty

I hope the message goes over well.

I tell my friend with PCOS this Saturday. I wanted to wait to tell her in person. I know she'll be happy and hurt all at once. 

tdmd09

brij2006 said:

I hope the message goes over well. 

We still haven't told our friends who started their first round of Clomid the same time we did.  She's told me how hers was unsuccessful, and they're now onto another round. She's asked me how our first round went, and I told her that we're taking a break from it. I still don't know how to tell her, and know I need to.

I'm sure her question kind of caught you off guard, but you really should tell your friend. When I was going through my miscarriages I had a few friends who actually had opportunities to tell me in person that they were pregnant, but instead said they weren't (we frequently talked about TTC), and then later on texted or called me to tell me. Even though it would have been hard for me to keep my composure in person, I felt lied to and betrayed. I know it's an awkward conversation to have, but keeping it from her may not be the best course of action for your friendship.

wiggyslilsis

I think that @tdmd09 is wise. I always feel like honesty is the best route.

amccul20

She took it very we'll and she didn't even cry. So that's good.

I did decide to tell her over a message though so that if she was upset she could deal with her emotions personally and them Medsage me back when she was ready. I think that was the best choice.

My SIL had 2 kids in the time we were trying to get pregnant and when she told me the second time it was over the phone and I had a hard time not crying and sounding excited for her. That was hard.