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need advice desperately!
I have a very bumpy relationship with my Mother and Brother; I honestly think they both share a similar undiagnosed psychosis. I am super happily married and they hate him. My brother is getting married in February on Valentine’s day in Hawaii. We are in the process of building a house and be relocated to Florida in January, this process has been going on for the last 2 years and we have been saving every dime for a large down payment so we have a comfortable mortgage payment because our plans are to cut our incomes almost in half by me staying home to start a family. As you may know either way it will be very expensive to furnish and get window dressing and needed appliances so funds will be very tight for the 1st year. I cannot seem to make sense to cut out the $3-5K it is needed to be at the wedding. This wedding is tearing our family apart even more because barely any members can afford to go and because both my husband and I have steady well-paying jobs they expect me to go and my mother and brother are now being even worse. I want to see her family and get to know my new sister in law but I feel not going to the wedding will ruin that completely as they want me to be a bridesmaid. I hate to make a monetary decision outweigh a family event but I also am bitter that they won’t even consider throwing something small for the rest of the family. Please help!!<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />