Too much stuff

TheYankeesGirl

DH and I have been married 3 years in may, he brought soooo much stuff, massive amounts of clothes and shoes and DJ stuff. He already took over the spare bedroom, and has a dresser, and half our small closet. There are literally shoes and things everywhere. being tidy and orderly was not something that was stressed when he was growing up I think. Is there a way I can get him to A. let go of some stuff, and B. Get him to be receptive to it instead of having a fit?

Stephanie

musictchr25

In terms of clothing, general rule is that if you haven't worn it in a year, get rid of it,preferably donating it if it's in good condition. You can use that as incentive - he would be helping others by donating his clothing to some less fortunate people.  If shoes have holes in them or significant wear, get rid of them. Old shoes really aren't good for your feet anyways.  If he is totally against getting rid of things, look into some shoe storage units so that the shoes that he wears the least are out of the way.  When he hasn't worn them in a year, tell him it's time for them to go.  Also, start making mental notes about clothing items or shoes that he complains about and make a deal with him that if he complains in a negative way about one of the items, then that's the last of it, and it's time to get rid of it.  Lastly, start a rule that says for every new clothing item that comes into the house, an old one needs to go in it's place.

Are there any ways that you can get some storage bins for clothing that is seasonal or that doesn't fit? DH and I both have a lot of clothes that don't currently fit, but that we are working towards getting back into, and those seem to take up a lot of space, but storing them somewhere else will help with getting rid of some clutter.  

Yes, these ideas may be strict, but it seems like your DH doesn't seem to understand the importance of not being a hoarder and to let go of some things.