Counterpoint to "Marriage Isn't For You"

Kimbus22

This article articulates why I found the first one so offensive much better than I can.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/wayne-self/young-singles-seth-adam-smiths-marriage-advice-isnt-for-you_b_4219365.html

chrisnjay05212010

im with you! i like this article much better than the original!

WendyGR

my favorite line? "Don't let family or friends or anyone tell you that your marriage is less than theirs if it doesn't produce babies."

Sillygirl45

Great article

GilliC

As someone who stayed married for many years for the benefit of our families, I wholeheartedly agree with a lot of this.

I'm now dating someone who makes me extremely happy. I am more cheerful, I no longer have suicidal tendencies, and I'm more productive at work, because I feel good about myself and I don't have personal issues distracting my focus.

Also, I don't want kids.

...Gee, I'm a huge failure according to the original piece!

Maybride2

I couldn't really put into words why the other article rubbed me the wrong way, but this article helps. 

palmettogirl924

There is a really great one on Cosmo as well:

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/celebrity/news/marriage-is-for-you

I was not a fan of Seth's article. 

Leftie22

"A woman's selfless love cures everything (but a man's love can come and go): Smith went through a time when he was being very selfish, and his wife forgave him. That's great for him, but I want you, especially my nieces, to know that you are under no obligation to be the saint in your relationship. If a relationship depends completely on one partner doing all of the forgiving, all of the loving, all of the sacrificing, then it is not a fair relationship, and you deserve a fair relationship. Don't let anyone tell you that real men misbehave and real women forgive. Find someone who is prepared to be just as loving and devoted as you are." THIS. This was exactly what bugged me the most about the original article. That fantasy that if you just love your guy enough, he'll stop being a tool and marry you. (And then of course, after you get married, everything is magically perfect, right?" Thanks for posting this, I can get my panties out of a bunch now.