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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
What's your biggest concern regarding the holidays?
Hey everyone! Feel free to leave a comment if none of the poll options apply to you! Happy Holidays 
What's your biggest concern regarding the holidays? 35 votes
Where to go
5%
2 votes
Traveling too much/ The stress of travel
11%
4 votes
Dealing with family
28%
10 votes
Missing your family
8%
3 votes
How much money you will spend
40%
14 votes
Eating too much
2%
1 vote
Other
2%
1 vote
Re: What's your biggest concern regarding the holidays?
This year my Dad is spending Christmas with his girlfriend and her little boys at their new house, my brothers and sisters are staying at my Dad's old house because they refuse to go to the new house, and I am going with my Mum to my grandmother's house, possibly on my own since my husband never celebrates Christmas (So far I have never spent Christmas with my husband.)
It's going to be awful to have the family so fragmented, I will miss everyone terribly and miss my Dad's amazing Christmas cooking, and that's even supposing there are no major fireworks when my Dad finds out about my siblings' plan to protest having Christmas at his new house.
My family is large and blended, due to the fact that we have my dad to visit as well as my mom and stepdad, and my oldest brother is married with kids of his own now. During my childhood, hopping from one holiday party to another was upsetting because my parents would get so stressed out and take their anger out on us kids. Nowadays, it's much smoother and all parents recognize that we're adults now, creating our own families and traditions, so everyone's much more flexible and we have a good time. It's my husband's family that seems to be the issue this year.
Husband - poor dear - isn't used to shuttling around or dealing with family drama. When he was growing up, he had a perfectly simple and normal Thanksgiving and Christmas, every single year. He grew up knowing one set of grandparents who would always come to the house, and they'd share the big holiday meal around his parents' table with him and his little brother, and that was that. Just the six of them, content.
This year, we were surprised to learn that his parents and brother have been feuding with his grandparents since the end of the holiday season last year. Everyone was apparently kind enough to keep it to themselves during our wedding, as they said they didn't want to disrupt our special time (which we appreciate), but the downside to this was that we were blindsided when they told us everything this fall - we hadn't seen this coming. So sadly, the news was broken to us just a couple of weeks ago that my husband and I are the only ones left who are still on speaking terms with Grandfather. Grandmother, who isn't really fighting with anybody, is nonetheless suffering the consequences of this feud as she is being taken along for the ride. After all, what can she do? There's a big rift between her husband and her daughter/son-in-law/younger grandson, and she feels like she can't do anything but watch from the sidelines.
So for the first time in my husband's life, he has to shuttle around in order to see everyone for the holidays, and he's not happy about it. We have to make separate times to see his parents and grandparents, as they no longer communicate. Sigh...