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PhilosophyOfWindex
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I am a hypocrite. When I was younger - before I hit the well worn age of 21 that is - I used to cringe at the idea of my presumably older parents 'partying.' Thursday night after Thursday night, my siblings and I would scoff at them as they dressed up to hit the 'disco' as they called it (and still do). In their white jeans and Italian shoes, they looked like modern day versions of Sonny and Cher, and I imagined them doing the hustle to the iridescent pulse of strobe lights, with Donna Summer blaring from Genesis Speaker heads. Needless to say I had perpetuated every 70's stereotype ever, but in my mind my parents were undeniably stuck in the golden age of their youths; I vowed to never wear white jeans.
Flash-forward 10 years, and my mother can still bust a move like MC Hammer and much to our dismay, the white jeans have braved the test of time, even managing to make a special guest appearance at my wedding! Although they've more or less swapped Bagatelle for pizza and wine parties at home, the occasional overlap has occurred, and I can tell you that there are few things in life more oddly inspiring than seeing a mid-aged couple popping bottles at Lavo and then realizing they are your parents.
As much as I hate to admit it, there comes a time in everyone's life when the age old adage of "Wait till you [insert verb here]" comes to bite you in the behind; "Wait till you [hit puberty] [get married] [have a daughter] [can't walk] [get fat] the possibilities of your terminally doomed future are seemingly, endless. For me, the "wait till" threat exposed itself recently. You see, I had wrongfully admonished my parents for 'going out;' I was under the false impression that once you got married, you took a speedy detour to retirement, and 'clubbing' was certainly not on the schedule. This is where I was wrong. Contrary to what I thought, occasionally 'partying' with your spouse and fellow betrothed mates can actually be a healthy and rejuvenating experience. I'm not saying you have to own a reserved post atop a table every Saturday night, but the casual sway of the hips to the iridescent pulse of strobe lights, never killed nobody. For me, there is something about 'going out' attached, that is slightly more exhilarating and unique, than it was when I was single. I know, you're flabbergasted, but here's why:
1. Going out is a welcome change up to a routine that can often become too comfortable. Furthermore, you tend to really appreciate a night of 'letting loose' when it doesn't come along that often.
2. There's nothing quite like recreating the bar mitzvah celebration huddle with a few of your besties, while the rest of the place looks at you wondering how a couple of Jersey natives made it inside.
The Dynamic:
3. The New Couple: they cannot resist fondling each other in the corner. You presumed they left 30 minutes ago, but there they are, pretending they are the only ones in the room. You kind of want to call out this all too public display of affection, but you stop yourself because they are kind of cute.
4. The It Girl: this one has been waiting for a night out since the last, and she's not about to let it go to waste. She soaks up every last bit of music (and alcohol) and dances like it's 1999. This is usually my go to girl, as she makes every night out count like it's the last.
5. The It Guy: this one made the reservation, ordered for the table, and is the proud bearer of that sugary bowl of punch you wish you hadn't tried. A seasoned vet in the nightlife arena, don't expect him to bust out like 'It Girl,' but a casual fist pump is to be expected.
6. The Loose Cannon: usually donning a beatnik fedora and maybe a striped sock or two, this one is the underdog's life of the party. He is the loose cannon because he refuses to sit down for more than three seconds, and sways between public displays of affection and rallying a group of strangers into a spot on rendition of Daft Punk's 'Get Lucky.'
7. The Surprise Rager: he is too quick to denounce 'going out' in favor of catching a good flick or read. He refuses to gel his hair or wait outside for more than 5 seconds (and rightfully so) however, once inside, he enjoys himself immensely and surprises everyone with his affinity for Arabian -like dance moves, scotch in the most inappropriate of places, and Miley Cyrus's Wrecking Ball.
8. The 'I love You' Man/Girl: get a few drinks in this one, and before you know it their professing their unrequited love to whichever ear is lucky enough to be sitting beside them. Think you mat be guilty? key phrases include: "No, like I really love you" "I'm so happy" "But like I really do love you"
9. The Music Snob: throw in a cheap Nirvana remix and this one might just get on the table. They let everyone know that this is in fact, an LCD Soundsystem remix, and for your information, "Moby invented this"; a sucker for 90's mashups and dance moves that are an obvious departure from the traditional club style. He/she'd be lying if they said they didn't enjoy it.
And Finally, the most exhilarating, rejuvenating and unique part about a CNO?
10. There's nothing like waking up to the person you most definitely did not meet last night, and enjoying a routined coffee and eggs breakfast.
Till next time
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C.N.O [Couples Night Out]
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I am a hypocrite. When I was younger - before I hit the well worn age of 21 that is - I used to cringe at the idea of my presumably older parents 'partying.' Thursday night after Thursday night, my siblings and I would scoff at them as they dressed up to hit the 'disco' as they called it (and still do). In their white jeans and Italian shoes, they looked like modern day versions of Sonny and Cher, and I imagined them doing the hustle to the iridescent pulse of strobe lights, with Donna Summer blaring from Genesis Speaker heads. Needless to say I had perpetuated every 70's stereotype ever, but in my mind my parents were undeniably stuck in the golden age of their youths; I vowed to never wear white jeans.
Flash-forward 10 years, and my mother can still bust a move like MC Hammer and much to our dismay, the white jeans have braved the test of time, even managing to make a special guest appearance at my wedding! Although they've more or less swapped Bagatelle for pizza and wine parties at home, the occasional overlap has occurred, and I can tell you that there are few things in life more oddly inspiring than seeing a mid-aged couple popping bottles at Lavo and then realizing they are your parents.
As much as I hate to admit it, there comes a time in everyone's life when the age old adage of "Wait till you [insert verb here]" comes to bite you in the behind; "Wait till you [hit puberty] [get married] [have a daughter] [can't walk] [get fat] the possibilities of your terminally doomed future are seemingly, endless. For me, the "wait till" threat exposed itself recently. You see, I had wrongfully admonished my parents for 'going out;' I was under the false impression that once you got married, you took a speedy detour to retirement, and 'clubbing' was certainly not on the schedule. This is where I was wrong. Contrary to what I thought, occasionally 'partying' with your spouse and fellow betrothed mates can actually be a healthy and rejuvenating experience. I'm not saying you have to own a reserved post atop a table every Saturday night, but the casual sway of the hips to the iridescent pulse of strobe lights, never killed nobody. For me, there is something about 'going out' attached, that is slightly more exhilarating and unique, than it was when I was single. I know, you're flabbergasted, but here's why:
1. Going out is a welcome change up to a routine that can often become too comfortable. Furthermore, you tend to really appreciate a night of 'letting loose' when it doesn't come along that often.
2. There's nothing quite like recreating the bar mitzvah celebration huddle with a few of your besties, while the rest of the place looks at you wondering how a couple of Jersey natives made it inside.
The Dynamic:
3. The New Couple: they cannot resist fondling each other in the corner. You presumed they left 30 minutes ago, but there they are, pretending they are the only ones in the room. You kind of want to call out this all too public display of affection, but you stop yourself because they are kind of cute.
4. The It Girl: this one has been waiting for a night out since the last, and she's not about to let it go to waste. She soaks up every last bit of music (and alcohol) and dances like it's 1999. This is usually my go to girl, as she makes every night out count like it's the last.
5. The It Guy: this one made the reservation, ordered for the table, and is the proud bearer of that sugary bowl of punch you wish you hadn't tried. A seasoned vet in the nightlife arena, don't expect him to bust out like 'It Girl,' but a casual fist pump is to be expected.
6. The Loose Cannon: usually donning a beatnik fedora and maybe a striped sock or two, this one is the underdog's life of the party. He is the loose cannon because he refuses to sit down for more than three seconds, and sways between public displays of affection and rallying a group of strangers into a spot on rendition of Daft Punk's 'Get Lucky.'
7. The Surprise Rager: he is too quick to denounce 'going out' in favor of catching a good flick or read. He refuses to gel his hair or wait outside for more than 5 seconds (and rightfully so) however, once inside, he enjoys himself immensely and surprises everyone with his affinity for Arabian -like dance moves, scotch in the most inappropriate of places, and Miley Cyrus's Wrecking Ball.
8. The 'I love You' Man/Girl: get a few drinks in this one, and before you know it their professing their unrequited love to whichever ear is lucky enough to be sitting beside them. Think you mat be guilty? key phrases include: "No, like I really love you" "I'm so happy" "But like I really do love you"
9. The Music Snob: throw in a cheap Nirvana remix and this one might just get on the table. They let everyone know that this is in fact, an LCD Soundsystem remix, and for your information, "Moby invented this"; a sucker for 90's mashups and dance moves that are an obvious departure from the traditional club style. He/she'd be lying if they said they didn't enjoy it.
And Finally, the most exhilarating, rejuvenating and unique part about a CNO?
10. There's nothing like waking up to the person you most definitely did not meet last night, and enjoying a routined coffee and eggs breakfast.
Till next time
Re: C.N.O [Couples Night Out]
Still, I'm glad you've discovered you can still have fun with your partner. Welcome to the forum!