NBR-At what point do I knock on the wall??

ajpufky

So we live in an apartment and had some new neighbors move in next door a few weeks ago, that we haven't met. We never heard anything from the last neighbor (she even had a dog) so figured this would be the same. No such luck!! We have been woken up twice in the past few days by them having sex around 1:30 in the morning. Now I'm all for a good time but when your headboard is slamming against the shared wall of our apartments so hard that I'm woken from sleep in the middle of the night...that's another story! Last Friday we actually switched our whole bedroom around so that our headboard would not be against the shared wall, thought that would do the trick, but sadly we were woken up at 1:30 last night to slam, slam, slam!! Plus it's not just the headboard that's loud...TMI I know! So now we are trying to figure out what to do. Do we knock on the wall? Leave a friendly "stop having sex so loud" note on their door? Just ignore it and buy some ear plugs? Any advice is appreciated!

SnShne322

I would think there has to be a good way of mentioning it.  I'd be fearful of just outright asking without scoping things out first in case they decide to be MORE obnoxious to spite you.  Maybe do a meet and greet with then and get a good feel? Then if they seem like they would be receptive ask if they wouldn't mind moving the bed a couple inches away from the wall.  :P

SusieBW

ITA with SnShne.  Have you seen them around at all?

Hoycie

I would leave a gift at the door.  

The contents of this gift would be wall spacers for the headboard and a note that says: 

Dear Neighbor,

This is not just a suggestion.

Best, 

Sleep Deprived

PhoenixRising11

This makes the fact that I can hear the woman downstairs snoring every night seem like it's not that bad. Ear plugs are my best friend.

I did once live in an apartment where the guy downstairs watched loud porn every night. I left him a note asking him to turn the TV down, and he did. And that was the perfect solution for my non-confrontational self.

ajpufky

SusieBW said:

ITA with SnShne.  Have you seen them around at all?

We haven't seen them at all, after what we can hear I don't know if I want to!

ThisModernLove

Can you talk to the Super maybe?  I'm sure other people are hearing it too if there are more than just two apartments and they're *ahem* loud.

InLovewSB

We had this problem at our first apartment. We said nothing. We moved within a year. We tried our best to ignore it. I know none of this is helpful.

I say - you and your H need to move your bed back against the shared wall, have a few drinks to loosen up, knock boots as LOUD AS YOU CAN at 1:30am.  Maybe they'll get the point, maybe they won't... but you'll have fun in the process. (It's better than a boring ol', non-orgasmic note.)

SRodi811

ASAP!
I had a similar thing happen to me a few years ago, although we are in a house.  We had new neighbors move in, and we would be woken at all hours of the night because of their "noises".  They would leave their window and blinds open so it was clear as day.  Nothing like getting up in the middle of the night to pee only to look out your bathroom window to see your neighbors doing it.  I left a note on the door asking them to kindly close their window and blinds.  They did so immediately...

Skeezon

Here's some advice from other people who had your same problem:

http://happyplace.someecards.com/18746/notes-asking-neighbors-to-stop-having-loud-sex

booknerd226

No advice, but that's hilarious! So sorry you're sleep deprived!

GilliC

I also thought along the lines of Hoycie. Go buy some rubber bumpers and leave them on the doormat with instructions to install them by the bed. You could even wrap them for Christmas.