Vent

Uptowngirl2009

I know I posted about this on the FB group last night but I still need to vent. I am having such a hard time controlling my anger/attitude lately. I don't think it is entirely my fault though.

DH coaches high school basketball so he's constantly gone in the evenings for 2-3 hours or more if they have a game. The first real game of the season is tonight. He has a lot on his plate right now so I feel like his personality has changed recently from stress.

I just can't seem to help some of the snarky things I have been saying lately and I have been giving him a lot of attitude. It just seems like he is extra annoying when he is around. I know he is doing what he can to help me when he is home and I am probably not being supportive enough of him and his coaching too. I don't want to use pregnancy as an excuse but I just don't know what else could be going on.

He is so excited about my pregnancy and I have really been putting a damper on his excitement too. I am thrilled and so excited as well but I am definitely not showing it. Maybe that is just my trying to be cautious until we get past first tri? I just don't know what to do to change my attitude and to make up with him. I think he needs to change his attitude as well but any time I try to talk to him about things like this he gets even more mad and pouts.

I don't know...thanks for listening to me ramble. I hope that this isn't how it's going to be for the entire pregnancy because I don't know if people can put up with me!

PandPMeant2B

Heard!

I feel myself being really short with DH, who will literally do ANYTHING to make me happy/more comfortable/feel better.  I feel terrible giving him attitude, but lately I can't help it. And then I get mad at myself.  Really? I'm getting annoyed because my husband is OVER-attentive? I'm a jerk. 

I tend to be the one who gets emotional and stresses out more easily.  And when he starts to act stressed I get upset, as if he's not allowed to get stressed or something! I hate feeling bitchy. Hope we can both find an attitude adjustment soon! 

bridget0117

This happened to me. I swear just seeing DH would piss me off! Or anything he would do would annoy me, I felt like slapping him sometimes. Lol. We would argue about the dumbest things and then after he would get mad I would get sad.

I don't remember when it got better but it did.

alexisanna44

I'm ragey most of the time. Most of the time I can't tell if it's pregnancy or because the world is full of idiots. I think it's 50/50 much of the time.

GoodWolf

I can relate. I feel like an emotional nut job! And I know H gets the worst of it. Now that I've realized what I've been doing and why (for some reason I didn't think pregnancy could be affecting my emotions so early), it's been a little easier for me to take a breather before I react. It would be so hard if I was a basketball widow on top of this. I'm sorry you're dealing with this, uptown

Uptowngirl2009

Oh @teacherlady79, that sounds like my DH. That is so irritating!

nightmare_of_beauty

No advice, but lots of hugs to you. 

lb1117

((Hugs)) I am short with DH often. Sometimes he caused it. Sometimes it's been a bad day and people have gotten under my skin. More often than not, I am worrying and anxious. I don't want to admit that I am panicking about something stupid so it comes out as anger.

Uptowngirl2009

Well DH brings it on himself too. He is always having some kind of turmoil at work. Last week he forgot to turn in his paperwork so he only got paid for 1 week instead of 2 (he will get the rest of it on the next pay check). He had some big bills due though that stressed me out. Now this week he is being moved from his current client to a new client all over something stupid (not really his doing). It's like we can never just have a period of calm. There is constant turmoil or trouble somewhere. It's so frustrating!

ljraff29

I can totally relate!  I've been super short with my H too lately. The other night he came home from work and started dinner, but I was mad and complained because it wasn't pasta.  I was actually smirking while complaining about this because I knew it was ridiculous  but I just couldn't stop. It's like everything is amplified with these hormones. Hope you get your patience back soon!