Trouble in Paradise
Nikke
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Decided to let go
Sorry if this gets log....
I have been with my husband for almost 16 years. We have been married for 8+. The first 2 years of marriage were absolutely GREAT! The following 2 we went through alot and ending up separating for 9 months. We worked through and got back together....we have been doing ok, I mean we have some problems but silly me, I thought we were working towards the same goal. In the past year we have had some major changes - we bought a new house, I started a new career and struggled to have quality time with us both working so much. I have noticed my husband had started drinking alot more but it was always at home and never interfered with his work so I put it on the back burner. Recently we attended a party and he got so wasted we ended up leaving early...on the way home he got over the top verbally abusive and I got called all sorts of names, we got home and he would not bring it down - he got so worked up that i got scared and called 911. When the police arrived he was still cursing and screaming that I had to get out. Because he hadn't touched me the police advised me to leave, which I agreed to. when the officer went to tell him they were leaving my husband completely lost it and actually swung at the police. Needless to say he ended up in jail. Since his release it has been a smear campaign that I am the enemy and i set him up. According to him and his parents i am the enemy and done everything horrible to get him locked up. Since his release the judge ordered a no contact order so he cannot come home, not that i want him here, but he filed for divorce this morning. i thought I would be upset or bitter but I feel like a weight has been lifted and he is no longer my problem...is that wrong?
I have been with my husband for almost 16 years. We have been married for 8+. The first 2 years of marriage were absolutely GREAT! The following 2 we went through alot and ending up separating for 9 months. We worked through and got back together....we have been doing ok, I mean we have some problems but silly me, I thought we were working towards the same goal. In the past year we have had some major changes - we bought a new house, I started a new career and struggled to have quality time with us both working so much. I have noticed my husband had started drinking alot more but it was always at home and never interfered with his work so I put it on the back burner. Recently we attended a party and he got so wasted we ended up leaving early...on the way home he got over the top verbally abusive and I got called all sorts of names, we got home and he would not bring it down - he got so worked up that i got scared and called 911. When the police arrived he was still cursing and screaming that I had to get out. Because he hadn't touched me the police advised me to leave, which I agreed to. when the officer went to tell him they were leaving my husband completely lost it and actually swung at the police. Needless to say he ended up in jail. Since his release it has been a smear campaign that I am the enemy and i set him up. According to him and his parents i am the enemy and done everything horrible to get him locked up. Since his release the judge ordered a no contact order so he cannot come home, not that i want him here, but he filed for divorce this morning. i thought I would be upset or bitter but I feel like a weight has been lifted and he is no longer my problem...is that wrong?
Re: Decided to let go
NO loss here at all.
You might want to go to AA and tell them your story; ask for a sponsor.
This is no loss for you. Life with a tosspot is no life at all.
Good for you for protecting yourself and not letting this man abuse you.
Stay strong and do not let them doubt yourself.
of course they are taking his side...the apple doesn't fall far from tree
divorce is hard and it sucks! but you will be happy again.