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I think I'll just stay here for Christmas
MIL is making it really hard for Jeff and I to be excited to go down this year. Last year we went down for Christmas, since we got the kids. Everything was fine. This year we will spend Christmas with my family and go down to NC from Friday-Wed (New years). She is throwing a freaking tanturm! It's seriously getting ridiculous.
This week she yelled at Jeff because we weren't coming down Thursday, but late Friday night. WE BOTH WORK!!!!!! I just found out they need me Thursday, which works out so I'm not 5 days behind when I come back, but 2. I had to get special approval for that. But since Jeff took off Thanksgiving, he told work he would work after Christmas because they will have a backlog after the holiday. She never asked him when we were coming down, and made plans with EVERYONE to exchange Friday. He told her that's fine, do it without us and we will catch them in the 5 days we were down.
NOW she called to tell him she's getting the kids this weekend and doing Christmas then with them. WHAT THE EVER LOVING @#$@#$^%%&^%#@$ REALLY?! What a f#$%ing d!ck move! Way to make a bad situation even worse! Way to put your feelings above everyone else, including two kids!
I know we live close to my parents, but does that mean I have to give up all holidays!? We are trying to be fair, we were down all Thanksgiving even at the risk of Jeff losing his job. Next year, we will be there for Christmas.
It makes me feel so bad and selfish, but I'm not giving up all holidays for her. Does it suck - yes, but its fair, and that's how WE decided we would do holidays. If a 7 year old can cope why can't s 58 year old
OH and BTW 2 months ago she wasn't even going to be around for christmas! She was going to go with her BF on a cruise for 2 weeks over Christmas.
Sorry I really needed to rant, and let it out. I need to support Jeff and not fuel an already hot fire.
Re: I think I'll just stay here for Christmas
The Rowdy Roberts
Yea, I'm not talking to her, Jeff is. But I'm ready for the comments while we are down and I won't keep my mouth shut. I'm tired of her making me feel guilty I'm the reason he's here and not in NC.
Honestly, I don't think he would be in NC. He said if he stayed in the Army, he'd just keep moving from base to base overseas. And if he got out he'd be a contractor overseas. He really didn't want to settle anywhere until we met and he said he could see a settled life with me. I was willing to move around with him while in the Army, but I made twice what he did... and he didn't want deployments etc to destory us like it did with his ex (well that and she's BSC). We made the decision together to live here. Just like we made the decision, to split the holidays between the two family, together.
@janma529 - Well, I just want to stay up here for the holiday this round because I don't want to see MIL at all right now. If I wanted to be a brat, I'd just go to my mamaw's with my parents Saturday instead of MIL's. But that would seriously break Lilly's heart.
But MIL - wants him home in general. At one point she told him his priorities were screwed up since his kids were in NC and he was staying in MD.