Mothers throwing housewarming shower

lilirishladyib

Hello all and I sure hope y'all can help. My husband & I got married 10/5/13. We knew we were buying a house, just didn't know the time frame. Well It happen AFTER the wedding (which we did NOT register for) and we have sense moved into the house and somewhat settled in. Yes, we do need things for our home and our mothers want to throw us a housewarming shower. My question is this, how should the invite ready with them throwing it & us registered at Target & Walmart without sounding pushy or greedy? 

DaBearsBride

You just got married so personally I would worry that you seem gift grabby by having a housewarming shower so close after the wedding (where, whether you registered for housing stuff or not, Im sure you were given gifts) Second of all, your guests who gave cash gifts at the wedding will probably wonder why you didnt use their cash for house stuff if you needed it.
Regardless, if you do decide to have a housewarming party I would limit it to family and very close friends and have the mothers tell the guests where you are registered IF the guest asks.
Do remeber to have refreshments and light finger food for the guests.

JMalettas

 I have never heard of someone throwing a housewarming 'shower', or party, for anyone other than themselves. You throw your own housewarming party, and if your parents want to invite people, or insist on helping with the event, and you're fine with that, then that's what you do. 

 I have also never heard of registering for a housewarming party. Of course, if I'm invited to one, I'm obviously bringing a gift, but have never been told someone has registered. I agree with the PPs, if you're going to register, keep it to only telling someone 'if' they ask. I would think that otherwise, this is going to come off as 'gift grabby.' Especially if you were recently married. 

 We just hosted our housewarming party a week ago Saturday, and definitely didn't register. We invited family & friends, and had refreshments/food. Everyone had a great time, and the last thing we were worried about was 'what' we might be receiving as gifts. 

 P.S: Also make sure to send out thank-you's post party!

 *J

lilirishladyib

Well we don't want to sound gift greedy by far, we did tell everyone after we bought the house would be when we would have the shower. We didn't know what we would need until after we bought it and there was no shower before the wedding. But we by far don't want to sound greedy for gifts. 

DaBearsBride

lilirishladyib said:

Well we don't want to sound gift greedy by far, we did tell everyone after we bought the house would be when we would have the shower. We didn't know what we would need until after we bought it and there was no shower before the wedding. But we by far don't want to sound greedy for gifts. 

Please tell me you didnt call it a shower though. Calling it a shower implies that you expect to be showered with gifts. It is a housewarming party.

Usuallyfine

I don't know if it is clear to them wether you expect gifts or not. In anyway don't forget you thank you notes

marriedlady1212

Did you have a bridal shower? Were you given gifts at your wedding? I have never heard of a housewarming shower. When we bought our house, we invited everyone over for a housewarming party. We did not register for this. Some people brought gifts. Some people brought booze. Some people just brought themselves, and that was ok too. I think having a "Shower" that implies gifts are required after you have already had an event where gifts were given sounds gift grabby no matter how you spin. 

JMalettas

lilirishladyib said:

Well we don't want to sound gift greedy by far, we did tell everyone after we bought the house would be when we would have the shower. We didn't know what we would need until after we bought it and there was no shower before the wedding. But we by far don't want to sound greedy for gifts. 

 Calling it a shower, is basically letting people know that you're expecting gifts. I've never heard of anyone using this term. 

 Yes, you may need things, but this is not an event that you register for. The fact that you didn't have a bridal shower before your wedding, doesn't make it mandatory/okay to have a shower after you purchase a house. 

 If you don't want to sound greedy, call it a housewarming party, don't register for gifts, and just have a good time with your guests. If you receive gifts, then great! If not, then whatever! The point is to have a good time with everyone!

 *J 

CountryCityWife

I understand where you are coming from. We were the opposite though, we already had our house but we wanted money for remodeling. So, we just made a huge register at the hardware store and ya....it helped a great deal. People knew we didn't want household stuff so they gave us money mostly, but I was grateful for every dollar!

If you are really in need for things, maybe have a theme. Like, a food theme or something along the lines of that. Your guest would bring some groceries to stock your pantry or something. My in-laws just bought their first home and I am planning on giving them a gift, but I also know what they need. People will probably give you some items, but other may not. Maybe sit down and talk with your mother to see what she thinks!

 

BlueBirdMB

Do NOT register for a housewarming party!  How ridiculous!  This is not a gift giving occasion- it is something to which people bring small hostess gift and they MIGHT bring something larger, but it should not be expected. 

There is no such thing as a "housewarming shower" and please do not create your own party.