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SusieBW

RevJen

Don't talk.  Just punch him.

nocturnalintimacy

I'm sorry. I know exactly how you feel.

My husband works from home and so I'm the one who gets up in the morning, wakes up Collin, yadda yadda. Sometimes on the weekends, if he tries to sleep in, I lose it. It's not that I don't think he's tired, I KNOW he is, but it just infuriates me that my time/sleep/schedule/plans are so easily brushed aside.

RhymeReason

First of all, I think this is a bigish deal. Like you said, it's not a matter not getting the shots since you can wait til next week, it's the respect thing. Your time is not as valuable as his which is bs. DH gets like this sometimes on the mornings he drives me to the train. He can leave 5 mins later and have it not be a big deal for him, I am 5 mins late its a matter of making my train or not. And if I miss the train, we now have to sit around for the next one which could be as long as 30 mins and then I am late for work. It doesn't matter to me that my boss is fairly flexible on time as long as I get my work done. I want to be in work on time. So yes, I nag the hell out of him if I don't think he's moving fast enough. He gets annoyed but when I tell him I really need to leave by a certain time there's a reason and I hate feeling stressed on the drive wondering if I am going to make the train or if I am going to have to run to catch it.

Hope you are able to talk to DH and feel better about this.

taylormillgirl

I'm sorry. I'd be super pissed, too. There's no excuse for that.

Next time, knock on the bathroom door and shout, "I'm leaving" and then go. That's what I do if DH is otherwise occupied when I need to head out the door. 

SusieBW

MrsC7

You are totally justified in being pissed.  I would be too!

Are you going to talk to him about it tonight?

SusieBW

SnShne322

I'm mad for you Susie.  It is totally disrespectful.  I know it's not really cool to yell in front of your kid, but I would be marching in that bathroom and (quietly) swearing up a storm at him.  Fuck that. There's no reason for him not to be helping you get Tatum ready every morning.  You have plenty to do on your own.  It's a team effort to get out the door, and if it makes more sense to have your DH drop her off, that doesn't make him off the hook for everything else.  It's part of being a parent.

Lauren620

That is so frustrating.  I would be upset and hurt too.  Your time and your health is important, so don't feel like it isn't a big deal.  I hope you guys can talk it out soon and find something that will work for everyone.

taylormillgirl

SusieBW said:

Thank you guys for validating how I feel.  It's good to feel like I'm not actually blowing this out of proportion or being overly emotional about it.

@taylormillgirl - I wish I could just leave, but this morning, DD was still sitting at the kitchen table eating her breakfast.  I can't just leave with him in the shower while she's still eating.  I can't leave in the morning until he gets out of the bathroom, because DD is still too little to be left to her own devices in the house.

NorthernLghts said:

It doesn't matter to me that my boss is fairly flexible on time as long as I get my work done. I want to be in work on time.

This is exactly the case for me, too.  There are 6 attorneys in my office.  Without fail, I am the second one here every single morning.  One guy gets in at 7:30 every day because of the bus schedule, the office opens at 8:30, when my friend and I generally get here, and the other 3 roll in around 9-9:15.  Sure I can stay a little late to make up the time, and my boss is never here much before 9:30, but I DON"T LIKE TO BE LATE.  It stresses me out.

If you knocked on the door and said, "I'm leaving in five minutes" and did it, do you think he'd learn and then get his shiz together? Or maybe if you put the LO in the bathroom with him while he finished showering? Either way, you need to be able to leave the house without him holding you hostage.