Another birthday party question...is this weird?

ryanthegirl

I was thinking of having 2 separate birthdays for G this year.

Cake and snacks (maybe pizza or something) at our house for my family (older aunts and cousin with grown children).

A birthday party at a play place where I would invite family members with children and our friends w/ and w/o kids.

The reason I ask, for example - one of the people I would invite to our house is my mom's sister. She has older children with grown children and she has younger children who have little ones. Would that be weird to divide up the family that way?

I'm trying to avoid 50+ people at the play place. 

TIA!

sundaygirl

I think it's perfectly normal to have a kids party and an adult party.  Last year was the first time we did it that way because we do them all in our little house and the kids are getting big and rowdy. We had a weekend party during the day for the kids.  Then on his actual birthday we invited family members and some adult family friends to our house for dinner.  The grandparents were at both - mostly because they just wanted to see him. 

If anyone asks, just tell them that the play place party is for the kids (you can address the invitations that way).  The adults that will be there are really the chaperones for the kids, right?

AmandaJLewis

We don't invite our family to EJ's kid parties. But mostly because she really has no first cousins that are not dogs.

So kid party on a weekend, and family when it is convenient- this year we just tacked it onto Thanksgiving because her BD was 3 days later and I wasn't cooking for the same people again.  But when I do have them down separate it is usually just for cake and ice cream, and our parents, my sister and K's grandparents. so a small crowd.

ryanthegirl

Thanks ladies!

I'm pretty sure I'm in a situations where I cannot fit the sum total in either my house nor the play place (although I haven't seen the party room at the play place) - so if I want to include everyone, it has to be divided that way.

denalea

I would say go with 2 parties.  If it is just the one family that falls into the "small children" and the "family" category, I would invite them to the kids party formally, and then informally let them know that the family will be gathering and invite them to that, too, so that they could enjoy the whole fam.  (With the obvious mention that no gifts are expected, and you certainly don't want them to feel as though they have to bring 2 gifts, one for each party.) 

denalea

(And by that, I only mean invite the immediate family of the small children cousins, not the gram and aunts, uncles, etc. of the small children cousins, too.)

sarahandtim

We always had a kid party and a family party. Not weird at all!