Monday FFQs

waterfall213

Any questions you have about pregnancy, childbirth, parenting, TTC, anything at all, post them here!

Remember no flames please.

wiggyslilsis

My goals for Ava Nichol are to try to be partially potty trained and only using her binky at night by 2 1/2 and if either of those things haven't happened by then to take a more aggressive approach to have them both accomplished by 3.

Does this sound reasonable to you guys?

waterfall213

wiggyslilsis said:

My goals for Ava Nichol are to try to be partially potty trained and only using her binky at night by 2 1/2 and if either of those things haven't happened by then to take a more aggressive approach to have them both accomplished by 3. Does this sound reasonable to you guys?

I think that sounds totally reasonable! Do you have a potty chair in the bathroom so she gets used to it? We've had one for about 5 months now and M has peed in her potty a few times. I always ask her if she wants to sit on it before and after bath and sometimes she says "yes" and sometimes "no". I haven't pushed the issue yet.

I hate the thought of weaning from the binky! I'm afraid M will have a sleep regression when we take those away.

Uptowngirl2009

Oh man, I had a FFQ I thought of over the weekend and now I can't remember what it was! Maybe I'll remember and post it later.

PandPMeant2B

wiggyslilsis said:

My goals for Ava Nichol are to try to be partially potty trained and only using her binky at night by 2 1/2 and if either of those things haven't happened by then to take a more aggressive approach to have them both accomplished by 3. Does this sound reasonable to you guys?

Sounds reasonable to me.  

My sister wanted my niece to be without a binky completely by 2 and I thought the way she did it was cute.  On my niece's 2nd birthday she took her to Build a Bear and they put her binky in the bear. So my niece knows she can't put the binky in her mouth anymore, but she can still sleep with it. AND she got a new teddy bear out of it. I don't think this would work on every child, but it did for her.  She didn't even cry about it.  If she wasn't ready I don't think my sister would have forced it.

amccul20

I need to know if anyone has had an orgasmic birth?

A friend of mine sent me a link to a video she said I HAD to watch because it was so beautiful and inspirational and it was of an orgasmic birth. I haven't actually had time to watch it yet, but now i'm really curious.

DH said he was listening to the radio one morning and the morning show had a whole discussion on it

waterfall213

amccul20 said:

I need to know if anyone has had an orgasmic birth?

A friend of mine sent me a link to a video she said I HAD to watch because it was so beautiful and inspirational and it was of an orgasmic birth. I haven't actually had time to watch it yet, but now i'm really curious.

DH said he was listening to the radio one morning and the morning show had a whole discussion on it

Nope! Although I had an epidural so I was still pretty numb when M was born. I could feel pressure and the need to push but I wasn't really in pain.

botanicalbliss

amccul20 said:

I need to know if anyone has had an orgasmic birth?

A friend of mine sent me a link to a video she said I HAD to watch because it was so beautiful and inspirational and it was of an orgasmic birth. I haven't actually had time to watch it yet, but now i'm really curious.

DH said he was listening to the radio one morning and the morning show had a whole discussion on it

I wish!  Mine was pretty much the opposite of orgasmic.

amccul20

botanicalbliss said:

amccul20 said:

I need to know if anyone has had an orgasmic birth?

A friend of mine sent me a link to a video she said I HAD to watch because it was so beautiful and inspirational and it was of an orgasmic birth. I haven't actually had time to watch it yet, but now i'm really curious.

DH said he was listening to the radio one morning and the morning show had a whole discussion on it

I wish!  Mine was pretty much the opposite of orgasmic.

this is exactly what my SIL said as she was laughing at me

bobcee

wiggyslilsis said:

My goals for Ava Nichol are to try to be partially potty trained and only using her binky at night by 2 1/2 and if either of those things haven't happened by then to take a more aggressive approach to have them both accomplished by 3.

Does this sound reasonable to you guys?

We never used a pacifier because our kids wouldn't take them so I have no advice on that, but your potty training goal seems reasonable. I learned though that its much easier if they are showing interest or signs of readiness the hard way.

Just before Delilah was 2, we tried potty training and she was not having it. It ended in all of us very frustrated and we thought we scarred her for life. Anyways a few months later (she was 27 mo) she just started going occasionally at school and one day asked to go on the potty while out at a restaurant. So that weekend we decided to take advantage of her interest and used the three day potty training method and it worked so easily. We haven't looked back. But like I said the first attempt was horrible and had we continued or forced it we would've spent a lot more time and effort training her than ended up being necessary.

LuckyAngel07

@wiggyslilsis, I can't speak from personal experience, but my sister has done both of these with her DD, who is now just over 2 years.

When it came to the paci, she cut back on allowing it only during naps and nighttime. I know my niece would still ask for it sometimes, especially just after waking up from a nap or in the morning when they first took it out of her mouth, but she eventually got used to it and stopped worrying about having it.

They also just potty trained her; she wasn't even 2 by the time she was totally potty trained! I have no idea exactly how they went about doing it, other than making sitting on her potty this hugely exciting thing (typically during diaper changes), with a little nonsense song and dance to go with it. I know that my niece was very interested and would get excited about it, so I'd say if Ava Nichol shows the same enthusiasm, you'll be well on your way with her.

wiggyslilsis

Thanks guys!

She sits on the potty and asks to go but she hasn't peed on the potty yet. She will go as soon as I put her diaper back on sometimes so I don't know but we are still encouraging her and hoping it leads somewhere.

The binky is another thing. I am also terrifiedof sleep regression if we take it away at night so i am almost willing to just let her have it at night until she is ready to give it up. She has a fit if she doesn't have one in the car she can go all day without one but won't calm down if she gets hurt or scared without one.

We are easing her off it though. Like she lost it in the car and rather than pulling over and finding it for her we just kept going until we got home and got it for her. I also won't find one for her. If she wants it I tell her to find it and often times she forgets that she was looking for it before she finds one.

sgautschi

Am I the only one that fell apart 3 1/2 months postpartum?

AF started and ever since then my IBS has flared up (worse than pre-pregnancy), I went from lactose sensitive to possibly intolerant, my IC is flaring up again, and my back, hips, and thighs are constantly throbbing. I was really hoping that while I was BF, none of this would come back.

Now I feel myself wanting to get pregnant solely to make it go away again (maybe that's my FFFC)...

sgautschi

I have another one, how early did your LO sit up unassisted?

A is close. She can sit up for brief periods, but then falls over. Seems early to me, but maybe not.

ETA I don't let her fall, I'm right there with my hands ready to grab her.

ljraff29

Mine might be silly, so bear with me. I had my 12 week appt today and the doctor had trouble keeping the heartbeat with the doppler. I was just wondering if it's normal. He said sometimes it's hard at 12/13 weeks. He did a quick ultrasound afterwards and the little heart was beating away, so eeverything is fine. He also didn't measure it. Is the bpm important? My next is with a different doctor in the practice so I'll have something to compare. Sorry that ended up to be longer and more questions than anticipated. Thanks ladies.

sgautschi

Ok one more then I promise I'm done. Lol

For mommies with more than one, when did you start TTC#2/ how far apart in age are LOs, and what do you like/dislike about it? Do you think it's easier when they're closer in age or further apart?

waterfall213

sgautschi said:

I have another one, how early did your LO sit up unassisted?

A is close. She can sit up for brief periods, but then falls over. Seems early to me, but maybe not.

ETA I don't let her fall, I'm right there with my hands ready to grab her.

M was sitting alone at 5.5 months.

waterfall213

ljraff29 said:

Mine might be silly, so bear with me. I had my 12 week appt today and the doctor had trouble keeping the heartbeat with the doppler. I was just wondering if it's normal. He said sometimes it's hard at 12/13 weeks. He did a quick ultrasound afterwards and the little heart was beating away, so eeverything is fine. He also didn't measure it. Is the bpm important? My next is with a different doctor in the practice so I'll have something to compare. Sorry that ended up to be longer and more questions than anticipated. Thanks ladies.

My OB wasn't able to find M's heartbeat on doppler until 13.5 weeks. It just depends on the position of the baby and placenta.

alexisanna44

ljraff29 said:

Mine might be silly, so bear with me. I had my 12 week appt today and the doctor had trouble keeping the heartbeat with the doppler. I was just wondering if it's normal. He said sometimes it's hard at 12/13 weeks. He did a quick ultrasound afterwards and the little heart was beating away, so eeverything is fine. He also didn't measure it. Is the bpm important? My next is with a different doctor in the practice so I'll have something to compare. Sorry that ended up to be longer and more questions than anticipated. Thanks ladies.

Totally normal. Your baby has lots of space to swim around and that makes it tricky to find and keep the heartbeat consistently on the Doppler. My almost 38 week old fetus even managed to get away from the Doppler last week.
BPM isn't super important, but it gives the an idea of how baby's doing. There is a normal range that they look for.

Whippet8

sgautschi said:

I have another one, how early did your LO sit up unassisted?

A is close. She can sit up for brief periods, but then falls over. Seems early to me, but maybe not.

ETA I don't let her fall, I'm right there with my hands ready to grab her.

6 months old

Whippet8

sgautschi said:

Ok one more then I promise I'm done. Lol

For mommies with more than one, when did you start TTC#2/ how far apart in age are LOs, and what do you like/dislike about it? Do you think it's easier when they're closer in age or further apart?

Ours will be 22 months apart. We started TTC when AF came back at 11 months PP. Got PG when Cora was about 13.5 months old. 

We wanted them pretty close, but still wanted Cora to be independent enough to do her own thing while I tend to a NB. My brother and I are 3 years apart, and I just felt like that was too much space. 

Whippet8

ljraff29 said:

Mine might be silly, so bear with me. I had my 12 week appt today and the doctor had trouble keeping the heartbeat with the doppler. I was just wondering if it's normal. He said sometimes it's hard at 12/13 weeks. He did a quick ultrasound afterwards and the little heart was beating away, so eeverything is fine. He also didn't measure it. Is the bpm important? My next is with a different doctor in the practice so I'll have something to compare. Sorry that ended up to be longer and more questions than anticipated. Thanks ladies.

Totally normal. Like PP said, there is a lot of space for LO to swim around, so there is no predicting which way they will turn. Also, it depends on what dr I see if we get the bpm. You can always ask them what it is. If they are concerned that it is too fast or too slow, they will know if they should do an u/s or whatnot. 

DangerMuffin23

Right now I feel no fear when thinking about my labor/delivery etc. (and I plan on drug free if possible). I'm actually kind of excited about it. Am I delusional right now and this calm will pass? Or did some of you feel that way all through the pregnancy, possibly delivery?

wiggyslilsis

@sgautschi seems like we have a lot in common. I was miserable a few months PP. I hurt my back, my endometriosis was flaring up which makes my IBS symptoms worse, I started getting migraines again...I was a mess I am so sorry you are going through this.

wiggyslilsis

Oh and Ava Nichol sat unassisted for the first time around 4 months but could still only last so long on her own and would eventually fall over. By six months she could prop herself up again if she fell over.

alexisanna44

DangerMuffin23 said:

Right now I feel no fear when thinking about my labor/delivery etc. (and I plan on drug free if possible). I'm actually kind of excited about it. Am I delusional right now and this calm will pass? Or did some of you feel that way all through the pregnancy, possibly delivery?

I wasn't too worried about it with Lucy. I ended up thinking l&d was no big deal. Now I'm a little scared that I'll end up with the opposite experience with this one since I kid if deserve it. Baby 1 was too easy.

smbenevides1989

DangerMuffin23 said:

Right now I feel no fear when thinking about my labor/delivery etc. (and I plan on drug free if possible). I'm actually kind of excited about it. Am I delusional right now and this calm will pass? Or did some of you feel that way all through the pregnancy, possibly delivery?

I was never scared about the delivery. I was more afraid of the iv than anything else. My contractions were Pitocin induced and I had her 2 hours later without an epidural.

botanicalbliss

DangerMuffin23 said:

Right now I feel no fear when thinking about my labor/delivery etc. (and I plan on drug free if possible). I'm actually kind of excited about it. Am I delusional right now and this calm will pass? Or did some of you feel that way all through the pregnancy, possibly delivery?

I felt this way until about halfway through labor when things went bad.  We were actually really looking forward to labor and delivery and were excited when labor started.  I hope your labor is nice and easy so you can enjoy it!

botanicalbliss

sgautschi said:

I have another one, how early did your LO sit up unassisted?

A is close. She can sit up for brief periods, but then falls over. Seems early to me, but maybe not.

ETA I don't let her fall, I'm right there with my hands ready to grab her.

G was 7 months

sgautschi

DangerMuffin23 said:

Right now I feel no fear when thinking about my labor/delivery etc. (and I plan on drug free if possible). I'm actually kind of excited about it. Am I delusional right now and this calm will pass? Or did some of you feel that way all through the pregnancy, possibly delivery?

I was never afraid of labor/delivery, even during the experience, and it went just fine, even with an induction. I don't think you're delusional. There's no need to stress over something you have no real control over.

DangerMuffin23

Awesome ladies! Thanks for the input!