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Feeling left out of social/friends events and parties...
in Married Life
Hi ladies (and gents?),
Just a little vent and asking for advice. Recently, my DH has quit drinking cold turkey (long story :[ ) and so far it's been a week and a half. We already noticed a decline in our social life over the last year or so, because we stopped going to the bar every weekend and happy hours because we just don't feel like doing that and spending the money. Over that period of time, we stopped getting invited to certain events (usually held at bars) because people just figured we wouldn't go anyways. This also has "spread" into other aspects of our social life...even just friends having people over at their homes for simple, innocent gatherings. I think because we stopped going to the bars, we have been out less, and therefore are just starting to "fade out" of social gatherings all around.
Now, because my DH has quit drinking, and as "friends" find out he's trying to be sober (which is fine they find out) I can only imagine we will be invited out even less! People only want to hang out with a beer in their hands now a days.
With his new sobriety, we are trying to be smart and not expose him to temptations at this point. His (our) first test is superbowl Sunday. We had to turn down the invite to bar hop after bowling. We are going bowling, but as our friends head out to the bars after, we will go home or to my parents' house.
Then, St. Patrick's Day is a huuuuuge day for my friends. It's essentially bar hopping all day. We probably won't even be invited (fine), but if we are, we will have to turn it down. Then...people see this as us "never doing anything" so I'm sure that'll affect us being invited out to other things.
I'm just sad and pessimistic I guess. Overall, its our future that we're looking out for (sobriety).
Any words of encouragement or advice? Thank you!
Just a little vent and asking for advice. Recently, my DH has quit drinking cold turkey (long story :[ ) and so far it's been a week and a half. We already noticed a decline in our social life over the last year or so, because we stopped going to the bar every weekend and happy hours because we just don't feel like doing that and spending the money. Over that period of time, we stopped getting invited to certain events (usually held at bars) because people just figured we wouldn't go anyways. This also has "spread" into other aspects of our social life...even just friends having people over at their homes for simple, innocent gatherings. I think because we stopped going to the bars, we have been out less, and therefore are just starting to "fade out" of social gatherings all around.
Now, because my DH has quit drinking, and as "friends" find out he's trying to be sober (which is fine they find out) I can only imagine we will be invited out even less! People only want to hang out with a beer in their hands now a days.
With his new sobriety, we are trying to be smart and not expose him to temptations at this point. His (our) first test is superbowl Sunday. We had to turn down the invite to bar hop after bowling. We are going bowling, but as our friends head out to the bars after, we will go home or to my parents' house.
Then, St. Patrick's Day is a huuuuuge day for my friends. It's essentially bar hopping all day. We probably won't even be invited (fine), but if we are, we will have to turn it down. Then...people see this as us "never doing anything" so I'm sure that'll affect us being invited out to other things.
I'm just sad and pessimistic I guess. Overall, its our future that we're looking out for (sobriety).
Any words of encouragement or advice? Thank you!
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