FFFC

wiggyslilsis

Spill 'em!

wiggyslilsis

My mom had major surgery on her jaw last Thursday. We have been staying with her since so I can help her out.

Part of the reason I am staying so long is because my step dad and 18 year old brother do a shit job of helping her out and that pisses me off. I should be able to go home because she lives with two people who are perfectly able to help out but just don't.

My FFFC is that I am about to snap and tell them that they are being assholes. I really shouldn't do that so I think I am going to go home tomorrow and just check in a couple times next week. Another FFFC even though my mom is pretty much taking care of herself now it makes me anxious to leave because what if she gets worse again?

PandPMeant2B

One of the reasons I'm going to that "bridal shower" tomorrow (see my post in Weekend Plans for the scoop) is because they have good milkshakes at the restaurant and I've been craving a strawberry milkshake lately. It was one of two things on the "reasons I SHOULD go"side of the list.  The other, of course, being the "bride" is a good friend to DH (and me, but I haven't known her that long). I think the milkshake carried more weight. 

smbenevides1989

I'm so agitated this morning that all I want to do is go home. I had every intention of actually doing work today, but something personal happened that caused me to become an emotional wreck. Now I have lack of motivation and boiling nerves. My FFFC is that I really want to slap two people back to where they came from, but if I see them, I think I'll scream at them instead. >:P

I hate it when family can't be happy for you.

Uptowngirl2009

I would be able to enjoy this pregnancy more if I wasn't always so stressed about finances. DH has been only working half the hours he should because of all the snow days/delays. That's not in his control and I understand that. I just wish he could get a better paying, steady job. We would be set if he could do that but instead I am left as the breadwinner and provider.

bridget0117

So we have a car which is basically "my" car and we have a truck which is basically "his" truck. Well his truck didn't want to start this morning so he took my car. Usually i wouldn't have a problem with this but I ran out of pepsis last night and I'm dying for a pepsi right now. My FFC is that I might order a pizza for lunch just so I can order a 2 liter. Lol.

JLyn821

FFC:  I'm going to do whatever I can to slide right through the day without doing much of anything.

This is me today.  I have no desire to work...at all.

Nicklet1081

Mine is terrible.....I'm warning you now.     I am in a wedding in August and have been trying really hard to exercise and diet.  I usually wouldn't do this for anyone but myself, but there is a girl also in the wedding that really really really gets under my skin.  My FFC is I want to look better than her!!   Told you....I'm a horrible person. 

greenbeanqueen

I'm praying that we get that snow/ice storm they are predicting for next Thursday because I'm supposed to go back to work Friday and don't want to. Snow=no school. I might regret praying for an ice storm later, like in June when we are making up all these days.

Right now all I care about is baby cuddles.

sparklingdiamond

DH wants a bigger car.  We can't afford it right now and I am telling her we can't get one until he starts looking for another job.  I am sure we could try to work something out, but I want him to get a new job!

mrsvedo

I've peed on 4 sticks this week, most recently this morning because I woke up and my boobs weren't sore like they were last night. I don't know if I'll be able to stop peeing on things until my first appointment in March.

Also, we're telling my parents this weekend and I'd rather not because my dad posts EVERYTHING on FB and I don't trust him to not post it before we announce to the world. He announced my sister's engagement like 2 seconds after he found out and before she'd told other family. I also don't trust that he's not going to make snarky comments about how he's too young to be a grandpa because he's always making those (he's 54 and this will be his first grandchild, so definitely NOT too young).

greenbeanqueen

mrsvedo said:

I've peed on 4 sticks this week, most recently this morning because I woke up and my boobs weren't sore like they were last night. I don't know if I'll be able to stop peeing on things until my first appointment in March.

Also, we're telling my parents this weekend and I'd rather not because my dad posts EVERYTHING on FB and I don't trust him to not post it before we announce to the world. He announced my sister's engagement like 2 seconds after he found out and before she'd told other family. I also don't trust that he's not going to make snarky comments about how he's too young to be a grandpa because he's always making those (he's 54 and this will be his first grandchild, so definitely NOT too young).

My Mil is 49 so yeah 54 is definitely not too young.

JLyn821

mrsvedo said:

I've peed on 4 sticks this week, most recently this morning because I woke up and my boobs weren't sore like they were last night. I don't know if I'll be able to stop peeing on things until my first appointment in March.

No flames here.  I peed on 5 sticks my first day.  And I think 20 in the first week.  Hell...I found an OPK in my desk drawer at work and peed on it a month ago!  lol

bridget0117

My mom is 46 and she was a grandma long before I had DD. 54 is not young.

mrsvedo

Thanks all! Yeah, my mom is 48. My parents got married at 17 and 22 and my mom had all 4 of us by the time she was 26. I'm 29 now and the oldest of 4 girls. The fact that they're not grandparents yet based on family history on both sides is actually pretty astounding, haha.

nightmare_of_beauty

Confession: I am so tired of everyone telling me "you should have done a d&c" or "this is getting so frustrating."

#1. I can't undo the fact that I didn't get a d&c. I do not regret it because I went with my OB and NP's advice. I trust them. 

#2. You're frustrated? OMG! I am so sorry this has been SO difficult for you, I didn't realize. I'll try to make it easier on you. 

ETA: Also, my sister started a team for March of Dimes in honor of Baby S and has been pitching different ideas to raise money for the walk. I am happy to be part of it, but I am slacking in motivation to help. 

GoodWolf

I seriously considered not coming into work today and blaming it on the snow (which turned out not to be as bad as they had in the forecast) because I woke up with a horrible hormonal breakout this morning and I'm so embarrassed! I feel like I'm in middle school again. Thankfully I'm a little better with makeup...

LuckyAngel07

@mrsvedo, along with everyone else's responses, tell your dad my mom was 50 (couple of months shy of 51) when she became a grandma (and no, there was no oops pregnancy making it happen earlier than anyone planned). He's not too young.

Also, MIL became a great-grandma a little over a year ago. DH's nephew knocked up his gf (they're in their early 20s). She was 58 when her great-grandbaby was born.

bridget0117

Lol! My oldest nephew is turning 15 this month and I feel like my mom is going to be a great-grandma by the time she's in her mid 50s too.

bridget0117

Oh and he might bitch and whine about being a grandpa so young but as soon as he sees that baby he won't care about age at all.

I've heard from many grandma's and grandpa's that you love your grand - children more than you love your children. So he will be head over heels sooner or later for that baby.

You just go ahead and tell them the great news and enjoy it. Don't worry about what he might say.

mrsvedo

LuckyAngel07 said:

@mrsvedo, along with everyone else's responses, tell your dad my mom was 50 (couple of months shy of 51) when she became a grandma (and no, there was no oops pregnancy making it happen earlier than anyone planned). He's not too young.

Also, MIL became a great-grandma a little over a year ago. DH's nephew knocked up his gf (they're in their early 20s). She was 58 when her great-grandbaby was born.

Yeah, of all people my parents have no room to talk about making their parents grandparents young. My maternal grandparents were in their very early 40s when I was born.

mrsvedo

nightmare_of_beauty said:

Confession: I am so tired of everyone telling me "you should have done a d&c" or "this is getting so frustrating."

#1. I can't undo the fact that I didn't get a d&c. I do not regret it because I went with my OB and NP's advice. I trust them. 

#2. You're frustrated? OMG! I am so sorry this has been SO difficult for you, I didn't realize. I'll try to make it easier on you. 

ETA: Also, my sister started a team for March of Dimes in honor of Baby S and has been pitching different ideas to raise money for the walk. I am happy to be part of it, but I am slacking in motivation to help. 

People suck if they've been telling you how frustrated THEY are. I'm sorry.

LuckyAngel07

mrsvedo said:

nightmare_of_beauty said:

Confession: I am so tired of everyone telling me "you should have done a d&c" or "this is getting so frustrating."

#1. I can't undo the fact that I didn't get a d&c. I do not regret it because I went with my OB and NP's advice. I trust them. 

#2. You're frustrated? OMG! I am so sorry this has been SO difficult for you, I didn't realize. I'll try to make it easier on you. 

ETA: Also, my sister started a team for March of Dimes in honor of Baby S and has been pitching different ideas to raise money for the walk. I am happy to be part of it, but I am slacking in motivation to help. 

People suck if they've been telling you how frustrated THEY are. I'm sorry.

Holy crap, seriously!! How freaking insensitive can people be?!

bridget0117

@nightmare_of_beauty, I'm sorry people are being so dumb. You did what your doctor's recommended and most of us do that. You are already going through so much and for them to be saying those things sucks!!!

Try to ignore what they have to say, I know it's easier said than done but try.
((HUGS))

DangerMuffin23

@nightmare_of_beauty I'm probably an offender here so I apologize. I probably said something along those lines at your last draw bc I'm frustrated for you. :-(

nightmare_of_beauty

@DangerMuffin23 Please don't feel that way! I meant that about no one on here, you have all been so amazing and supportive. I couldn't be more thankful for every single person here and on GP. My ILs and mother are the ones who have been saying that they are getting frustrated with it in a way that makes it sound like I'm inconveniencing them. 

wiggyslilsis

@nightmare_of_beauty I am so frustrated FOR you!

sgautschi

@nightmare_of_beauty That is so insensitive. I can't believe someone actually had the balls to talk to you like that. ((Hugs))

@wiggylilsis I'm sorry your family isn't more helpful and trustworthy. I hope your mom is starting to feel better.

@mrsvedo I took tests almost daily until I finally got my dark line around 5 weeks. You aren't alone.

@bridget0117 I think you should order something for yourself.

wiggyslilsis

Aw thanks @sgautschi she is doing so much better already but now she is just miserable because her mouth is wired shut which is very uncomfortable and she is on a liquid diet which is difficult to say the least.

sgautschi

@wiggylilsis A family friend had jaw surgery, can't remember why, but she said it was awful. And to top it off, she made the mistake of having some tomato soup one time and the acid burned her so bad and then it hurt worse because of the wires.

When does she get them out?

DangerMuffin23

nightmare_of_beauty said:

@DangerMuffin23 Please don't feel that way! I meant that about no one on here, you have all been so amazing and supportive. I couldn't be more thankful for every single person here and on GP. My ILs and mother are the ones who have been saying that they are getting frustrated with it in a way that makes it sound like I'm inconveniencing them. 

Oh good. I'm glad :-) thanks I feel better now.