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Not sure how to take this...

My DH and I are driving and talking about needing to loose weight.  We are both overweight.  He is pushing 300lb and I'm around 250.  I was telling him I was reading how many hours on the ellipticle it takes just to burn off a burger/ fries and a soda.  And this is what he says...

"yeah, I (meaning him) need to start riding my bike again.  I (meaning him) remember when I was down 40lb when I was riding my bike a lot and eating a lot of yogurt.  Thats when Leslie the old secretary at work was working there."

So I pause for a minute and turn to him and say "wait, what"?  Then I said "what does the secretary at work have to do with you loosing weight"?  He says "well I just remember thats when it was... she was working there".  I'm still baffled and like I don't get it how you contribute your weightloss to when THE SECRETARY LESLIE WORKED THERE?!?  Then he blew up and got really mad that I was pointing that out.  He said he had no idea why he thought of the secretary when he was remembering that time and he thought I was crazy for questioning him about it.

So I ask you ladies....... WTF?  Am I crazy for thinking thats the most bizarre memory match up or what???

Re: Not sure how to take this...

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    Um.  Dude.  Relax.  It's a random memory.  We all have them.  I've had people recount memories that involved ME and I have no clue.  People remember odd things/ connections sometimes.  it happens.

    You seem to be looking for something here and I'm not sure what it is. 
  • Agreed with PP. I think you overreacted.
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  • Yeah he probably just linked it to that... it means nothing
  • My DH and I are driving and talking about needing to loose weight.  We are both overweight.  He is pushing 300lb and I'm around 250.  I was telling him I was reading how many hours on the ellipticle it takes just to burn off a burger/ fries and a soda.  And this is what he says...

    "yeah, I (meaning him) need to start riding my bike again.  I (meaning him) remember when I was down 40lb when I was riding my bike a lot and eating a lot of yogurt.  Thats when Leslie the old secretary at work was working there."

    So I pause for a minute and turn to him and say "wait, what"?  Then I said "what does the secretary at work have to do with you loosing weight"?  He says "well I just remember thats when it was... she was working there".  I'm still baffled and like I don't get it how you contribute your weightloss to when THE SECRETARY LESLIE WORKED THERE?!?  Then he blew up and got really mad that I was pointing that out.  He said he had no idea why he thought of the secretary when he was remembering that time and he thought I was crazy for questioning him about it.

    So I ask you ladies....... WTF?  Am I crazy for thinking thats the most bizarre memory match up or what???
    No. I don't this this is weird or a non sequeteur at all.

    He merely associates the weight loss with Leslie. No big deal.
  • I can see where you're probably going with your thought pattern here, and from the short interaction you described, I think you may be overreacting.

    TBH, in the same situation, I probably would have asked something similar ("Wait... what? What does Leslie have to do with anything?")... but when he shrugged it off as just his way of matching up the timeframe, I would have dropped it.

    Has Leslie come up before in conversation? Does he make mention of her frequently (maybe at the time when they worked together and/or missing her now that they don't work together)? Is there a pattern here that you're not mentioning?

    If so, please elaborate to give a fuller picture. (Are we traveling down the path that you don't trust him and suspect infidelity?)

    If not, I would say this really is NBD and you're making more out of it than is needed.

  • That wouldn't bother me at all. So what if he liked her? I'm sure nothing was going on, but he probably talked to her about his weight loss or something like that so it struck a memory. Don't be like that. 
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  • Maybe she mentioned that it looked like he was losing weight or something and he didn't want to tell you the whole story because of how you reacted to him mentioning her. Apparently Leslie doesn't even work there anymore. 

    I guess I would wonder who the heck Leslie was at first too but let it go. Nothing to get upset over.
  • I wouldn't make to much of it..My husband remembers our anniversary because it was the first time he ate quiche! If he remembers a lot of details that have to do with this Leslie person I might become a little suspicious.
  • Thanks, Ladies!  I really just wanted to get a 2nd (or 8th) opinion and its clear from all your reactions it was pretty innocent.  I just though it was strange... bizarre actually, but I'm sure its nothing.  :)

    Thanks for the feedback!!!
  • I really do get the initial, "who the F is Leslie?". Just not a hill to die on ;)
  • do you think that maybe he was interesting in staying/getting fit FOR leslie?  and that once she left he lost his motivation?  i mean, i was in awesome shape during my affair.
  • As his secretary, she could be the one who ordered his lunch! Or the one that he talked to during lunch! Wouldn't worry :) 
  • I guess I'm just a jealous person cus I'd prolly be concerned by that comment too. I'm not saying i'd automatically assume he had sex with her... but I would think that he may have liked her... But i'm just the crazy wife who doesn't think its okay for my husband to have a "crush" or "just like" another woman at all.

    It could be just a strange association cus my husband has those all the time and perhaps theres a totally normal reason he connects the two instances but i think its natural and normal to want to know the connection - cus men always have a reason for connecting things. Just the fact that she worked there doesn't line up with him losing weight.... Maybe she was eating healthy too and he felt fat to eat crap next to someone eating a salad everyday - that would be valid but I wouldn't "drop it" without knowing the reason for the connection

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