Trouble in Paradise
bethieb123
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All I wanted for Christmas ...
Was a trip to target by myself. It didn't happen, and I still haven't had a chance to get some "me time". My dh works 12 hr shifts about 12-16 days out of the month, and if he works nights it can feel like he has been home for two weeks straight. We have a toddler and I stay home with her - I love being a stay at home mom, but it's not the same when your dh is always around and you both have cabin fever.
He joins me for the few play groups that are available in my area, so even when I go out with dd I feel like he has to tag along.
I told him I planned on going to get my hair cut one afternoon while dd napped, and instead he had the idea that we go walk around the mall and I get it done while they wait. I've had two dr appts and he ended up driving me there and waiting (with our dd in the car or waiting room). And then he complains about how long it took and how restless dd was... Ya think?! He is great with dd so I know he doesn't have a problem with watching her - it's just like he can't be alone.
I'm a very independent person and I need alone time in order to function. It's starting to feel like a chore having him around all the time - once dd naps I usually have a couple of hours to unwind and get stuff done, but if he's home it's like I have another child I have to pay attention to. After I put dd down for nap or bedtime he immediately wants my attention and expects me to be in the mood for sex - so my options are tell him to wait which makes him feel rejected and pissed off or give in and get it over with so I can relax...
I know things will get better in a few months because we be moving closer to family and he will get a normal 9-5 type job - but right now I'm at my wits end! I need some perspective or advice or something??!
He joins me for the few play groups that are available in my area, so even when I go out with dd I feel like he has to tag along.
I told him I planned on going to get my hair cut one afternoon while dd napped, and instead he had the idea that we go walk around the mall and I get it done while they wait. I've had two dr appts and he ended up driving me there and waiting (with our dd in the car or waiting room). And then he complains about how long it took and how restless dd was... Ya think?! He is great with dd so I know he doesn't have a problem with watching her - it's just like he can't be alone.
I'm a very independent person and I need alone time in order to function. It's starting to feel like a chore having him around all the time - once dd naps I usually have a couple of hours to unwind and get stuff done, but if he's home it's like I have another child I have to pay attention to. After I put dd down for nap or bedtime he immediately wants my attention and expects me to be in the mood for sex - so my options are tell him to wait which makes him feel rejected and pissed off or give in and get it over with so I can relax...
I know things will get better in a few months because we be moving closer to family and he will get a normal 9-5 type job - but right now I'm at my wits end! I need some perspective or advice or something??!
Re: All I wanted for Christmas ...
Baby Boy loved for 15 weeks, 5/31/11
Baby Girl loved for 16.5 weeks. 3/1/12