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2nd opinion RE follow-up

O.M.G. I have never been so anxious/nervous after a doctor appointment in my life…

As some of you may remember, I went to a new RE for a second opinion after 2 failed cycles of Clomid and IUI and just a general dissatisfaction with our previous RE. New RE ordered a ton of labs (which amazingly, because of how he coded them, have been covered by insurance so far!) and today was the follow-up to that. For starters, taking DHEA and CoQ10 did shit for my labs compared to where I was last year (in fact my AMH fell from 0.76 to 0.55, ugh). The biggest things that RE found that may be contributing is a low TNF (tumor necrosis factor) which apparently has something to do with your immune system function and a low IG-F which has something to do with growth hormone. He is recommending starting me on a few different meds to help with both, and then starting the IVF process next cycle (we had planned for July). 

Since everything is OOP for us, I had a bit of a freak out after this appointment. It's crazy how many emotions you go through when the time has come to move forward with IVF, even things that DH and I had discussed at length before. I think my biggest issue has been the possibility of what happens if we spend all of this money (that we will continue paying for at least a year), and it doesn't work. Thankfully, I had a 2 hour drive home today to think about this and process it all in my head before I came home to cry to DH. If it's not successful, obviously, we'll be devastated, but we both agree that it's time to at least try. 

Medications start tomorrow… recheck of my TNF and IGF is in 2 weeks… if we're all good, April 10th is when it starts. The one fun thing (if you can call it that) is that the ET is tentatively the day before our 2 year wedding anniversary. Maybe that will bring us good luck?

Sorry this got so long… I just needed to share with some understanding peeps. This is going to be a long couple of months… 


TTC since 3/2012 
DH - 36; nml swimmers; Me - 36; almost no AMH (last 0.081), low AFC, nml FSH/LH
Clomid + IUI #1 (6/2013) - BFN; #2 (7/2013) - BFFN
IVF 1.0 5R/5F/2T (ET 6/11/2014) - no frosties, but BFP 8dp5dt (EDD 3/1/2015) 
Lost our sweet baby boy, Lincoln Alexander 10/3/2014 (19w)
IVF 2.0 - ER 3/25/2015 - 3R ZERO mature.
Ovaries are done...
DE IVF ER - 12/2/2016 (17R/10F = 8 frosties); FET 1.0 (1/27/2017) - BFP 6dp5dt (EDD 10/16/2017)

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  • FX for you both.. I'll keep you guys in my thoughts as you move forward on your TTC journey <3
    Married - 12/14/13
    TTA until June - then it's on :)
  • Crossing everything for you! I hope the new findings and plan are just what you need. Good luck!
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  • Exciting! It's scary too, I'm sure, but I've got everything crossed for you!

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           Me: All Normal DH: .5% Morph
    Cycles 1-14 (Natural) all BFN
                                  Starting IUI#1 procedures Nov '13
                          IUI Cxl'd due to surprise natural BFP 11/1/13
            Calvin born on June 19th, 2014 via emergency c-section at 3lbs7oz
         
  • Good luck moving forward! I'm keeping my fingers crossed that this is it for you guys <3
  • Excited for you to be moving on, but I certainly see why you are anxious. Wishing you lots of luck and thinking of you and your H as you start this new phase.
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    Dx PCOS August 2012
    Clomid x4 = BFN
    Femara+Follistim IUIs x 6 = 3 BFN, 2 C/P, 1 early miscarriage
    IVF June 2014- 43 R, 34 M, 24 F, 12 blasts frozen and severe OHSS
    FET September 12, 2014!
    Beta #1 12dp5dt- 724
    Beta #2 14dp5dt- 1631
    Beta #3 20dp5dt- 12,813
    EDD 5/31/15 until OB tells me otherwise. Grow babies grow!

    "I might have to wait. I'll never give up. I guess it's half timing, and the other half's luck. 
    Wherever you are, whenever it's right, you'll come out of nowhere and into my life." ~ Michael Buble

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  • Some of the biggest rewards are the things that scare the crap out of us before we jump.  FX that your anni brings you the luck you need :)
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    TTC#1 July 2010 PCOS dx April 2011 
    DS born: February 21, 2012

    TTC#2 June 2013 MMC Sept 2013 (partial molar), CP 02/2014 DS2 born: December 5, 2014
  • It sounds like you're pleased with your new RE, and that's wonderful.  Good luck moving forward. 

    TTC since 1/13  DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)
    Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
    1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system. 
    Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
    Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340  Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
    Riley Elaine born 2/16/15

    TTC 2.0   6/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 9/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
    BFP 9/16  EDD 6/3/17
    Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
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  • I'm so sorry you're at this point. I'm glad to hear the new RE has a better plan in place for you. Crossing everything for you!
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    TTC 24 months, IUI #3 BFP 6/4/14 Beta 6/5 58, 6/9 508, 6/11 1227 TWINS! EDD 2/15/15
    With heavy hearts, we said goodbye to our precious angels on 8/12 at 13 weeks 2 days.
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    IVF #1 Lup/Brav/Meno, ER 11/28 10R/10F, ET "Rudolph" 4AA embryo 12/3, 7 frosties.
    BFP! Betas: 12/12 225, 12/15 706, 12/17 1512. EDD 8.21.15
    12/29 hb 120. 1/5 perfect, GRAD DAY! 1/15 perfect at OB. NT 2/6 PERFECT, HB 158!

    Baby Girl born 8.9.15 at 38.2 due to IUGR 4lb7.8oz 17" 
    Our princess is being watched over by her older siblings every day <3
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  • I'm glad your meeting with your new RE was beneficial.  Good luck moving forward!  
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    February 2013: IUI #1 = BFN 
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  • Good luck moving forward!! I am glad you have a plan!
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    TTC since June 2011 dx: PCOS
    Clomid+IUI: Cancelled b/c didn't respond (June 2012)
    Femara+Trigger+IUI #1: BFN :-( (July 2013)
    Natural Cycle (8/7/13)- BFP!  Beta #1 (9/10/13): 509 Progesterone: 18.64  Beta #2 (9/12/13): 1118
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  • It sounds like the second opinion was a good move. The reality is that you very well could spend all this money and have it not work. It's devastating and horrible. It's part of the reason it's taken us so long to try another IVF. You hope that you're one of the lucky ones that has it work the first time, but the stats are that 40% don't work. For no other reason than it just didn't. I don't say that to bring you down, but having those feelings of this could not work helped keep me in check throughout IVF 1. I cringe at women who think "oh. IVF. Now we'll get our baby."

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  • GL and FX!

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  • It really sounds like this new RE has a better handle on things and knows where to start in trying to get you a better outcome (taking care of your low levels of TNF and growth factors). I wish you all the best in moving through this process. I can only imagine the hopes and fears going through your mind, and I truly hope it all goes well!
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    BFP #1: 11/9/13; spontaneous m/c at 6w2d, 11/25/13
    BFP #2: 12/31/13. B/w 12/31: betas >1000, progesterone 13.6; B/w 1/2: betas 3065, progesterone 10.2
    B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
    Progesterone suppositories started 1/2. Please stick, baby!!
    Fiona Elise born 9/9/14 - welcome beautiful girl!
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  • Thank you to everyone for your positive vibes, and thank you @Aimothy for sharing your perspective. Truthfully, I'm not sure that our chances are even that high (particularly since my AMH continues to decline). RE is hoping for 5 good eggs at time of retrieval (compared to the typical 15 at my age). We're still hopeful that we'll get lucky, but we've also already accepted what we may have in store for us. 

    Started "pre"-IVF meds this evening (including twice daily shots of heparin, fun!). 

    Thanks again ladies!


    TTC since 3/2012 
    DH - 36; nml swimmers; Me - 36; almost no AMH (last 0.081), low AFC, nml FSH/LH
    Clomid + IUI #1 (6/2013) - BFN; #2 (7/2013) - BFFN
    IVF 1.0 5R/5F/2T (ET 6/11/2014) - no frosties, but BFP 8dp5dt (EDD 3/1/2015) 
    Lost our sweet baby boy, Lincoln Alexander 10/3/2014 (19w)
    IVF 2.0 - ER 3/25/2015 - 3R ZERO mature.
    Ovaries are done...
    DE IVF ER - 12/2/2016 (17R/10F = 8 frosties); FET 1.0 (1/27/2017) - BFP 6dp5dt (EDD 10/16/2017)
  • You have my thoughts, prayers, and good hippie vibes. I'm really wishing a good outcome for you.
    Married 2011.
    Baby Boy 2015.
  • Good luck with everything!  I really hope this all goes well for you!!
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  • FX for you! GL with moving forward!!!
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