Separation Anxiety

lrocvilla

Hi Ladies,

Happy Friday! I'm hoping you all might give me a bit of advice. DD seems to have a crazy case of separation anxiety. She's just about 7 months old, and everyone has told me that this usually starts later, but I would say we've been dealing with this for at least the last month or so. If DH and I are home together with her, she only wants to be with me. If he holds her she screams her head off, even when I'm right in the same room as them or sitting right next to them on the couch. She won't eat if he tries to feed her. If I try to leave her in in her crib for a few minutes so that I can go to the bathroom, she cries. Even when she's in her jumperoo and can see me sitting right in front of her, she gets pretty worked up. DH feels terrible about this and it's getting a bit exhausting for me because I'm sort of doing everything at this point. Does anyone have any experience with this kind of thing? It just seems so extreme to me, but maybe it's normal? Help!

NewQueen

I think the age is right on for this behavior. At least that's what wonder weeks says... Henry hates when DH or I leave the room. He has a play area and will happily play by himself so long as one of us in it with him. It's exaughsting but luckily, for us, he's happy with either of us. I'd suggest getting out of the house so your daughter can have one on one time with daddy. You being around might be making their time together harder?

lrocvilla

Hi NQ--Thanks for the advice. Yes, there have been a few occasions where I have left them alone together while I work late, run errands, etc. and that seems to go a bit better than when I'm in the house with them. I think it's most upsetting when I'm there because she seems to prefer to be with me, which makes him feel bad. And, if I'm in the house but out of the room, the sound of her getting all worked up sets me on edge. I know, like everything, this is just a phase. But, I'm hoping it passes quickly...

eaglesfan700

My DD is 8 months and starting with this. It isn't too fad with H, sometimes she reaches for me while he is holding her. I notice it more when I leave her at the gym child watch. She has been going since she was 3 months old with no issues. Now all of a sudden she starts to cry when I leave. But she gets over it and is fine.

My advice would be to just leave her with your H more often. Good luck!