I need to vent about work- Update

Lauren620

I deleted my original post because I don't want everything out there. I do have an update though.

I spoke with our Director of Operations this morning and I have another meeting this afternoon. I got a little more heated/angry than I typically do at work, but I definitely was not out of line. Basically, if I stay they will give me about $10 more an hour, which is great for now. I'm not letting a raise keep me here long term. My meeting this afternoon is going to be with my customers and whether or not it's an option to take my current work to another company. My Director of Operations spoke to them immediately after he finished with me, so when they heard that I can either continue doing my work from somewhere else or quit, they were pretty open to making things happen. So right now I am just getting everything together to find somewhere else to work. If my current company wants to give me more money in the meantime then I will gladly take it.

Thanks everyone for letting me talk about this and for giving me a lot think about before I lost my cool at work. NBC really is the best

MrsJenE

Total bullshit.

EliStar

Do you want more money or do you want out? If more money all help you feel less resentful, walk in there and demand a raise. If you don't think money will help, then you should start looking elsewhere. You just can't leave things the way they are, you'll go nuts.

Lauren620

I think it's time for me to just be done. I don't think money will change much at this point.

EliStar

Get out. Coming from someone who just got out and feels so immensely relieved. The grass is greener.

SnShne322

Total bullshit, Lauren. I know how stressed you've been, and from my perspective (albeit from a distance) you just need to get out. Even more money isn't worth your sanity.

RiverPlate

I'd demand a raise, and then get out.  Use your 'new' salary as a starting point for negotiations for a new position.  And yes, that's total bullshit.

Lauren620

Thanks for listening. I know I need to leave, but man it is so hard. I'm going to put some serious thought into how I'm going to do this.

Lauren620

And this news TOTALLY killed my buzz from earlier. John just bought me some strawberry Abita so I'm going to get working on that again.

MrsC7

Dude. That is MESSED UP. It makes me really, really mad that you stepped your game WAY up when you were "promoted" to do two jobs for the same crappy pay. FEMINIST RAAAAAAGE.

I would polish your resume with your awesome qualifications and start reaching out to your network to see what's out there. Your job will regret treating you like crap. 

fabk

Find something else! Stress from work is no good. Working yourself to the ground is no good either. You have way too much life ahead of you to let work get you this much down.
Big hugs!

packfan20

@Lauren620 I was in a similar situation when I quit my job a couple years ago.  The stress was so bad, I ended up in the hospital.  It's not worth it.  Life is too short.  What they are doing is complete crap and I think you are being taken advantage of.  Yes, money is nice but your health is more important.  If you are like me, the stress is affecting every aspect of your life and it's just not fair to you and your relationships.  Get out of there ASAP.

(But then don't be like me and quit and then find out you're pregnant a week later!  Or DO do that and have a lovely 9 months to yourself.  )

GreenBride624

Will you be able to pass off some of your "old" responsibilities to your sister?

If you could move some responsibilities to someone else AND get more money, would you consider staying? 

Do you genuinely like the people you work with? 

(just some random thoughts! )

jenndawnp

I'd be so pissed too.  I got out of my crappy job situation 2 years ago and it's been great, yes my job is very stressful but I get treated well and get raises.  It's not always about the money but when it comes down to it, employers need to put their money where the mouth it sometimes.

RevJen

You spend too much of your life at work to be this stressed and resentful of your job, Lauren.

sweetrhythms

Big hugs! Get out of there! I once was in a job that had me super anxious, getting panic attacks, sick to my stomach etc. Getting out of there was the best thing I did. You spend too much of your life at work to be so miserable and once it's affecting other parts of your life, it's definitely time to get out. Good luck and stay strong!

84Lauren

I say leave - but I agree with @RiverPlate that you should still demand a raise, immediately.  Have you ever tried to negotiate higher?  Something I remember from a college Sociology course has always stuck with me - that a theory on the remaining pay gap for women is due in part to women being less likely to proactively ask for more money. 

BIG HUGS, whatever you decide!!!

pinkybooklover09

Life is so short Lauren, get the eff out of there as fast as you can! 

Lauren620

@84Lauren I know that part of the problem was what I started out making.  I was ready to move up when I was offered this management position and they gave me a 22% raise though, so I thought it was great.  I just didn't know how much less money I was making to begin with.  I have asked for more money, but not formally through an annual review so nothing was done.

84Lauren

Lauren620 said:

@84Lauren I know that part of the problem was what I started out making.  I was ready to move up when I was offered this management position and they gave me a 22% raise though, so I thought it was great.  I just didn't know how much less money I was making to begin with.  I have asked for more money, but not formally through an annual review so nothing was done.

From your update, sounds like things might work out for the best!  I sure hope so, girl! xoxo

MrsJenE

YAY for the update!

julie37619

I missed the original post, but as someone who within the past year left an absolute pit of despair, I join everyone in saying get out if it's bad.  There ARE decent work environments.

Lauren620

@GreenBride624 pretty much no to all of your questions lol.  My sister will be doing something totally different.  I really hated to even bring her into it because I do want her to have something exciting to look forward to. Unfortunately, there are more people at my job right now that I don't like than I do.  

Shepherdjel

I am happy to hear the update! best of luck finding a new job! Come vent anytime ;-)

GreenBride624

Lauren620 said:

@GreenBride624 pretty much no to all of your questions lol.  My sister will be doing something totally different.  I really hated to even bring her into it because I do want her to have something exciting to look forward to. Unfortunately, there are more people at my job right now that I don't like than I do.  

Yeah, that doesn't sound salvagable then.  Life's too short to work at a miserable company!