GP Moms
saisongbird
member
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
XP - birth story part 2
in GP Moms
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
Re: XP - birth story part 2
.
B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
*back to lurking*
BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017
As a nurse, your story made me so incredibly ragey. Don't worry about the other patients that your nurses had to take care of. The other nurses probably came in to help you because she was busy with another patient who - get this - may have actually had a harder time than you and your nurse had them come in to check on you or get you things you needed. Also, medications can't be given more than an hour ahead of time. So you can't get your motrin ASAP whenever you ask for it. When they say they can't give you medications, they're not "making you suffer," they're actually doing their job (which you seem to think they can't do). Your stories made you sound like a selfish, spoiled little girl. Holy crap. I am so glad I wasn't your nurse. And you can pretty much guarantee that they were all talking shit about you.
You've heard what I've done, not what I've been through.
If you were in my shoes, you'd fall the first step."
BFP#1-EDD 3.3.13 - No HB @ 9w3d
You've heard what I've done, not what I've been through.
If you were in my shoes, you'd fall the first step."
BFP#1-EDD 3.3.13 - No HB @ 9w3d
You've heard what I've done, not what I've been through.
If you were in my shoes, you'd fall the first step."
It's also NOT OKAY for her to treat other people like the way she treated them.
You've heard what I've done, not what I've been through.
If you were in my shoes, you'd fall the first step."
BFP#1-EDD 3.3.13 - No HB @ 9w3d
Thank you for understanding.
You've heard what I've done, not what I've been through.
If you were in my shoes, you'd fall the first step."
I am sorry your experience was so horrible.
Labor is hard. It isn't supposed to be easy. I am blaming it all on the terrible pp hormones that rage through.
Oh, ps, I had HELLP and was on mag sulfate 12 hours post birth. I couldn't open my eyes let alone try to hold my baby. It's not worse than your story. But it's a story just the same. And I didn't go all postal on the nurses and doctors, they were simply trying to, you know, take care of me properly. DH took care of DS 100% alone while I moaned in and out of sedation because I wanted to help but couldn't move my body. Totz sucked and am hoping to avoid it this time around. Regardless, acting like the only patient in the hospital doesn't tend to win the rhetorical you any awards. My guess, or my hope, is that in a few months when hormones have settled you can look back on this and understand that there were people doing their jobs and caring for you as best they could while you unfortunately took a proverbial shit on them. With any luck they weathered it and also gave you a pass based on hormones.
You didn't get the birth that you wanted. We get it. Lots of us here get that. Lots of us went through similar. Lots of us have tough labor stories. And yet the one that suffered what I feel is legitimately the scariest and most difficult labor of all doesn't go around publicizing and being all woe is me. I'm fairly certain she's just happy to be alive and have her baby. And that's how it should be when all is said and done.
I'd suggest getting a different OB and birthing at a different hospital next time, if that's an option and there is a next time. I think it'd be best for everyone involved.
Hope baby is doing well after HER ordeal.
And I agree that labor is hard. Recovery is hard. But most still don't require two blood transfusions and shouldn't leave you in that much pain. That is not normal. And you may have had difficult labors as well, but that has nothing to do with her experience, how she was treated, and how she's feeling right now. She just got over a traumatic experience and was venting. Would it have been that hard just to let it be? What did you really gain from coming here?
Unless you were there, you don't know how the nurses and staff treated her. You don't know the reasons that meds weren't brought when they said they would be. Maybe they couldn't because it hadn't been x amount of hours or maybe they got busy with another patient, but then again maybe not.
And sorry if she was being difficult and irrational at times, she was in pain. Not all people handle pain the same way. So while you may be able to act in one manner during it, it doesn't mean everyone can.
Also, I don't blame her dad one bit for trying to be an advocate for her. He was seeing his daughter in pain and was trying to help. Maybe he didn't go about it the best way, but when you see your kid in pain, sometimes you're not always thinking rationally. You just want to make everything better for them.
So yeah, maybe she was a difficult patient and possibly a bit dramatic and typed a birth story more about her experience than the baby's and it was negative as opposed to being positive, but why do you care? It is how she is feeling. So maybe after her experience, she does need help working through the issues she had and is feeling now, but she definitely doesn't need more people piling on her when she's obviously already having a difficult time coping.
.
I will, however, defend until the end the profession that I absolutely love. There is no nurse that is going to purposefully withhold pain medication. If they do, they need to be fired. It does sound like there could have been more communication between the two parties. I always try to let my patients and their families know the situation. I'm an oncology nurse and I love my patients. They're thankful for the care their nurses provide. When they're in pain, they understand that we are doing the very best we can and will advocate for them. No nurse is going to make a patient suffer, and it is rude to say that they actually would. And the picky things about the nursing assistant "of course" banging her wheelchair against the door. Those things are hard to drive (no seriously, they are)!
You've heard what I've done, not what I've been through.
If you were in my shoes, you'd fall the first step."
And I'm not saying that the nurses were purposely withholding meds. But there have been times in my experience where they've forgotten or gotten busy with something else.
I'm glad you're a caring sympathetic nurse that loves your profession, but you can't say the same is true for 100% of the nurses out there. There are some that aren't going to be as good/caring, that are disgruntled, etc...just like there is in every profession. Again you don't know what she was being treated like since you weren't there and weren't the one caring for her. She gave her perspective. The end.
.