Trouble in Paradise
winenot0511
member
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Vacation Plans but husband has meetings
My husband and I are celebrating our 1 year anniversary in 2 weeks and had planned to take a week off together to just relax and spend some along time together. We have had a lot of issues that have come up in the past few months that ended with us having to see a marriage counselor. Things were starting to look up and we both had our companies approve our vacation time for our anniversary. We weren't planning on going anywhere extreme, just maybe take a few days to go to the beach and relax together the rest of the week. I guess I was looking forward to it a little more then he was though. He made the HUGE, idiotic (I think), mistake of telling his boss that he will still be in town and that we weren't going anywhere. So surprise, surprise, the company is having this last minute meeting here in town that he is required to go to, which I think is a load of BULL. Maybe I'm overreacting, maybe not but I really think that week should be about us and he shouldn't being going to a 2 day long meeting. All he has to say for it is "we have 9 days together, me not being here for 2 of those days isn't a big deal." It's a huge deal to me though. He is already leaving for Italy for work at the end of this week for 6 days. That week was supposed to be our time and now I'm just upset because I feel like he would rather put work before our marriage. Am I overreacting for being so pissed about this? I just feel like it's none of his companies business if we are going to be in town or not and I feel like if you have a vacation planned work should not interfere. Not to mention this is the only vacation I get for the year where I work aside from a few days off here and there.
Re: Vacation Plans but husband has meetings
Give the guy a break - he's trying to keep his company happy and his wife happy - it doesn't sound like HE is happy in this arrangement
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
I wrote a book! Bucket list CHECK!
http://notesfortheirtherapist.blogspot.co.uk
You'd be surprised how common this is. YOu are never alone -- not on vacations or anywhere else -- and it is common for vacations to be interrupted or delayed due to business matters.
I do think you are overreacting a bit here... No, he didn't have to go out of his way to mention that he'd still be in town, but if he's feeling pressure from work to attend this meeting, then I think you should cut him some slack. You'll still have 7 days together -- just make the most of them. That's still a full week of time together. Also, use your 2 solo days to pamper yourself (massage, mani-pedi, etc) or enjoy something that maybe he doesn't like to do...
DH and I are going away for our 1 year anniversary in a few weeks... We'll have 6 days together... and we've already discussed taking a half day on one of those days to spend apart so we can do our own thing (he'll probably go golf while I get a massage or lay at the pool)... Spending vacation time apart is not the end of the world... and TBH, it's not a bad thing...
Why can't you take the 9 days off of work and spend 3 of them with his undecided attention in Italy? That sounds amazing! You get to go to bed together every night and wake up every morning the days he does work still. That's very nice.
Are you not going to Italy because of finances? Are you not allowed to go? It clearly states that significant others/ spouses are allowed to go on business trips at my Hs company but on their own dime.
A stay-cation can be just as nice. But is he feeling pressure at work? What led to him saying you are staying in town for your vacation? Since he is working two of those approved vacation days is he getting to use those vacation days another time? Can you work those days and take another mini vacation?
Honestly I would be upset if H had to go to work during our vacation if I was expecting his full undivided attention. How upset you are is something you need to calmly discuss with your H. Discuss what his expectations and yours will be for future vacations and his work trips. Sounds like you both need to get on the same page.