3T Check In

amandaf6383

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FYI: We don't want to exclude some ladies, but this is a check in for ladies who are unfortunately having trouble trying to conceive (TTTC=3T). If you've been trying for more than a year and/or have been diagnosed with any form of infertility OR are now pursuing adoption or have decided to remain childless following a 3T journey, you are welcome to join us.

Updates: Ok ladies... where are we at this week? Testing, Procedures, Appointments, Adoption updates, Life updates? What’s going on, etc. Let's hear all about it!

QOTW: Does 3T/IF affect your husband the same way as you? If so, how? If it affects him differently, how is he affected?

FFC/AW of the Week (no rules):

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-Abt81813 - Graves Disease DX; Still testing for PCOS; Clomid cycle to start soon

--Aimothy: TTC since October 2009, DX: PCOS & Unexplained MFI, IVF Summer 2012

- amandaf6383: TTC since July 2012. DX: PCOS. On Metformin. Clomid & getting healthy before pursuing IUI/IVF

-brij2006: TTC since 4/13 DX: PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles); further treatment Winter 2015

-Flamingo86: TTC since July 2012, 4 losses. Dx: MTHFR, clotting issues, otherwise unexplained. Considering adoption.

- FutureMrsWright2012 - TTX since March 2012. DX: low AMH and decreased BAF count. 5/2013 - 2 unsuccessful Clomid + IUI cycles, and now waiting to start IVF in Summer 2014.

-Islandmonkey08 - TTC since January 2013. DX: Annovulatory/Unknown reason. IUI #1 currently happening Feb 2014.

-IloveRedVino: DX:Primary dx PCOS, secondary dx unexplained infertility. One stillbirth, one miscarriage, two failed IVF cycles. Exploring new options

-LooneyLife: TTC since May 2011, DX: Unexplained w/mild MFI

-nfp147: No longer actively TTC but still amazing support to 3T family and deeply loved.

-poppies717 - TTC #1 since Feb. '12; dx - unexplained; 2 rounds of IVF in winter 2013-2014, 1 m/c; taking time to grieve

-rccola1981: TTC since April 2011, DX: dx to mild PCOS, endometriosis and low sperm count

-Rockabye: TTC since Dec 2008, DX: PCOS with no ovulation at all. 2 failed Clomid/IUI cycles. Injectables April 2013 = BFN.

-Seahorsey: TTC since October 2008, DX:Unexplained IF with failed IUIs and IVFs

-Sewilson33 - TTC since Dec. 2012; SA & BW came back great; Next step: HSG & RE

-Sweetpotato123 - Diagnosed with PCOS August 2012, all tests clear for both me and Mr (will be doing another HSG hopefully in December just in case) . 4 unsuccessful rounds of Clomid, 3 femara/inject iuis with 1 chemical and one miscarriage just shy of 6 weeks. Going for more testing to look at cause of losses and trying to stay hopeful.

-Xan921: TTC since March 2012. DX irregular and anovulatory cycles; also DX with Complex Endometrial Hyperplasia.

-Ystaalenburg: TTC since February 2012 DX: PCOS @ 16; Currently taking break after 2 failed treatment cycles.

RockABye

No update. I think AF is going to start today or tomorrow thanks to Provera. I'm still irritated that FF kept saying I Oed when I just had this sneaking suspicion that I never did.  Blah.

QOTW: We both struggle with it. He gets just as upset as me, but he holds back sometimes just to be the strong one. I think I process it a little differently because it's ME that is broken and not him, but it still gets to him. I don't know. I hate thinking about it hurting him like it does me.

AW: I took a day of VC tomorrow so yay for that!

nightmare_of_beauty

@RockABye Awesome for a day off! I'm sorry FF lied to you, I'll smack it for you if you want. 

Sewilson33

@rockabye - enjoy your much needed day off!

Update:  I started spotting a tiny bit today mixed with CM. The last time I spotted this early on after ovulation I ended up spotting for 12 days straight. I'm praying it goes away otherwise I am calling my RE and asking them. It's just not normal to spot like that...

QOTW: DH gets upset when AF comes and you can tell he is super disappointed but he will not let me in because he doesn't want me to get any more upset than I already am. Now that we are 3T and with an RE when AF shows I pretty have the "f*ck you, f*ck you, you're cool, f*ck you" mentality. Then I move on and go about my day. He just feels like talking about it non stop doesn't bring anything good into our relationship. We discuss what we need to discuss before and after dr visits or testing and that's it.

FFC: I keep saying I'm going to diet and work out more. I have been working out a lot more but I keep eating ice cream... It's spring!! What else am I supposed to do???

Xan921

Nothing to update here, it'll remain that way until July, blah.

QOTW: I think 3t affects my Dh more emotionally than it does me which makes me feel so guilty because I'm the one with the issues. He is much more sensitive than I am and seeing babies in public pulls at his heart strings while I won't even notice them or else I block them out without realizing I'm doing it. 3t makes me angry while it makes him sad, I think that's the best way to sum up our differences with it. I guess I'm using my anger as a defense to try to convince myself I don't care as much as I do whereas he just puts all his feelings out there.

nightmare_of_beauty

@Sewilson33 I pray the spotting goes away too! And I vote eat all the ice cream you want, especially if you're getting in a good exercise, a treat doesn't hurt. 

amandaf6383

No Updates Here.

QOTW: I am much more vocal about my struggles with it. Tom tries to keep a stiff upper lip but sometimes he says something that just about breaks my heart in half. I hate that this is so hard for us both.

nightmare_of_beauty

@amandaf6383 I'm going to say a special prayer for you and YH tonight. 

sweetpotato123

I just got my giant scary box of meds this afternoon. Had a mild emotional breakdown yesterday, but feeling better today. Labs came back positive for one gene copy of MTHFR, so back to the pharmacy I go for super human doses of folic acid. I think my daily pill count is up to 12 or 13 now. I will do anything at this point to be successful. 2 more weeks and it's go time.

After some communication challenges early on, I think we both know what the other needs to get through 3T. It sucks all around (I'm in a bit of a mood today- clearly).

Sending you all so much love and positive vibes!

Aimothy

Update: See priceless picture post.

QOTW: he is much more laid back about things. In the last two years, he's vocalized more of his hurt and angry feelings.

nightmare_of_beauty

@sweetpotato123 That is a lot of pills! I'm sorry you have to take so many. You are allowed to be emotional and have break downs, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. 

nfp147

Sending you all a bunch of love!

QOTW: I am much more vocal than he is and much more emotional. He was very upset when we found out that we had MFI, which broke my heart.  He has been such an amazing support and partner through all of this.

LooneyLife

Big hugs to everyone

@sewilson33 I hope the spotting doesn't keep up

@xan921 July will be here before you know it and I've got my FX for you to get wonderful news then

@sweetpotato123 2 weeks, very exciting!

@aimothy !!!!!!!!!!!!

LooneyLife

Update:  Doing the beta thing, waiting for u/s

QOTW:  I have my moments, but for the most part I think we handle it the same.  We just try and roll with the punches.  But I've mostly learned that from him over the years I've known him.

islandmonkey8

Update: Apparently, I O'd last week. But we had like zero timing so really I'm just waiting for AF. I had no sign of impending O, so it through both DH and I off. Oh well I guess.

QOTW: DH won't always just say what is on his mind about 3T. I will notice he's upset and have to ask what is up. But he is becoming much more open with me about it. I think it is just about as hard on him as it is on me. Luckily, most of my bad days aren't his and vice-versa. The days where we both are having a bad 3T moment are definitely the hardest.

rccola1981

Update: we have two information sessions with adoption agencies scheduled. My parents are happy, his mom is crazy. Her response was all but non existent, but what she did say kind of made me mad... QOTW: most of the time I think it is harder for me, but he occasionally lets it bother himself. Aw: DH and I started a diet In December, and the entire time DH has been ahead of me in weight loss; this morning I weighed in at -33.2 pounds total passing his 32.2

amandaf6383

rccola1981 said:

Aw: DH and I started a diet In December, and the entire time DH has been ahead of me in weight loss; this morning I weighed in at -33.2 pounds total passing his 32.2

Holy shit! That is amazing! Awesome job! Also, good luck at your two appointments. :-)

FutureMrsWright2012

Late to the game... Sorry, crazy week finishing up a couple of classes! Update: Nothing new... Still on meds/shots trying to get my TNF up (I feel your pain @Sweetpotato123! I'm at a total of 11 pills and 4 shots per day, and we haven't even started the stimming meds yet!). QOTW: DH and I are pretty much on the same page. We both feel like 3T sucks big time, but we have a plan that we both feel good about which helps.

poppies717

Also late, but vaca was amazing!! I will be out they next few days due to a field trip. Hooray.

Update: Expecting AF soon. I have a whole bunch of forms to fill out for our home study. My wedding photographer offered to do pics for our profile at no charge!

QOTW: I have a hard time reading him when it comes to 3T. He is so focused on protecting me and helping me process that he rarely talks to me about it. I've tried to engage conversation about it, but he won't talk about it unless he wants to. For instance, today he had lunch with his friend (his wife is 2 weeks from EDD), and friend told DH how much his wife is complaining. DH said he knew it was normal stuff to complain about this late, but it pissed him off that his friend even told him as this guy knows about our 3T and loss. He thought it was insensitive (and it was). That's the kind of stuff he opens up about.

AW: Just got back from a few days in San Juan! It is so beautiful!!!!! We had a great time and drank lots of yummy margaritas! This was the view from one pool (I don't know why it's upside down, sorry).