Buying A Home
RDeMoss1622
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we can't seem to agree!
My hubby and I started the home search a few months ago and live in an area where location is very key for community, schools, re-sell value, etc. This is our starter home and we are very ready to get out of our apartment! As we've been looking, we cannot seem to get on the same page about what we are looking for. I have been open to compromising (ex: giving up a basement) to get our ideal location and he thinks we should wait it out for the perfect house (which, unfortunately, I don't think is out there in our ideal location and price range). My question is, does anyone have advice on how to better communicate our wants/needs in the home search? In general, our personalities are pretty opposite (which is great for the most part!) and we tend to look at things in completely different ways, which adds to our communication struggles. Any advice would be greatly appreciated as arguing over every nook and cranny is emotionally draining me! thank you!
Re: we can't seem to agree!
Then share.
You will not get everything you want, but you can find a way to get everything you need.
Be prepared to live in the house longer than you expect.
If you are buying a home you should plan to be there 7-10 years. So, buy a home based on what your family may look like in a decade (kids?). Many people rush out to buy a "starter home" and they outgrow it between kids 1 and 2 or between 2 and 3.
I think you each need a list of 10 must haves. Then you each need to define 5 must-haves, then do 3 must-haves.
Make these lists separate from one another. Then discuss. Try to learn WHY the other person values their listed items/features. Hopefully, you will see some overlap.
IMHO, the most important are price (not going over budget), LOCATION, and age of the mechanicals (windows, roof, water heater, furnace or heat pump, AC, and even the kitchen appliances.), as well as square footage (planning for your future needs), and garage (attached and at least 2 spaces are important to me). I would avoid decisions based on cosmetics (like counter top materials or other things) that are easily changed over time.