Discontinuing sex until wedding night???

AZmama

If you did this, did you feel it was worth it?  Do you feel it made the wedding night/honeymoon more special than would have otherwise been?  Any other benefits?  I have read that some people feel taking sex out of the equation helps couples refocus on other areas.

Thanks!

BlueBirdMB

We didn't have sex for two weeks before the wedding.  It was stupid- I don't know why we did this.   It didn't make anything more special- it was special because we were married.

TarponMonoxide

AZmama said:

If you did this, did you feel it was worth it?  Do you feel it made the wedding night/honeymoon more special than would have otherwise been?  Any other benefits?  I have read that some people feel taking sex out of the equation helps couples refocus on other areas.

Thanks!

I don't think it is a good idea.

beyondwords106

We didn't have sex for a month before we were married.  For us it was really hard to resist and there were times when we almost slipped up and it just made us want each other more.  It did make our wedding night more special because we could finally be together again.  But everyone's different. 

KonaCoffeeBean

Certainly not on purpose. I don't understand the reasoning behind this at all. However, stress is my number one mood killer, so there was probably not a lot sex happening right before the wedding.

schuette2

I was struck down with a migraine on our wedding night, so take my advice and do it now case you can't on yours. 

lifeguard

We tried to abstain for two months prior to our wedding. We would make it to a week or 10 days then break down and have the best sex we can remember .

aguyouthere

If you've found a partner who cares, loves, supports and will stand beside through the good and not so great times, then you've found someone truly special. Personally, I'd rather take every opportunity to share the life I have with someone I cherish today. Because, people we love, can be taken from us in the blink of an eye.Then everything is too late!

emuangel

We didn't have sex for a month before the wedding, but that was due to long distance. We hardly saw each other at all during our year long engagement, because we were working in different states. So the no sex thing was not by choice. I mentioned the idea of it planning to not have sex befroe the wedding to my husband once and he thought it was stupid.

lizard85

Our pastor, when we first met with him, asked us to move our date up(we were living together), then asked if we could move away from each other(we were about 10 months out at this time).  We told him I was not moving out and we could not move our date as we had already booked reception site.  He said celibacy was the way to start a God pleasing marriage.  Me and H are fairly religious.  I had always wanted to wait til my wedding day to have sex for the first time.  That didn't happen.  So we agreed at 9 months or so out to stop having sex.  We focused on each other.  Not sure it made a difference, but I feel it was my part and sort of my way of making it up to myself for moving in with a bf when i was younger and was forced into my first time.  

Our wedding night was AMAZING!!!!  and I feel our sex life is stronger and happens more now(Married almost 3 weeks)

RamaLamaDD

My friend did this. I've never talked to her about it and only know she did because she got schwasted at her bachelorette and said she didn't need to remember to take her bc because they were going the "church route" prior to marriage. (I am pretty sure they had sex and then stopped, but honestly she might have saved it for the wedding night.)

I think it's totally an opinion. I wish I had held back a bit before.

SheMarie82

If so, it was not intentional.  Those last few weeks were a blur, and I will be real honest, on the wedding night once we got back to the hotel, we had a conversation of if it was even going to happen that night.  We were both exhausted!  Post wedding sex has been more frequent and fantastic than it has been in a LONG time, so I have no complaints!

nurse714

If you're not religious, then I don't see the reason why not. MH and I are Christians so we didn't have sex before the wedding and I have no regrets. Our wedding night was amazing!

thesummersky

We abstained originally to walk the talk when it came to our desire to live according to God's original design for our lives. This was definitely something that made us pray more often and spend more time getting to know each other as friends before the wedding.

Also - IT WAS FUN! Everything was more sexually exciting, even just kissing. The built up anticipation was awesome. Our wedding night was a blast!