TTC Check in!

callitcompulsive

first of all, congrats to @backseatdriver on her BFP this past week!!

Where are you at in your TTC journey?
Any testing coming up?
Anything good or bad happening? (TTC wise or just in life..)
QOTW: IHO Mother's Day; Is there anything you catch yourself doing that makes you think "OMG I'm turning into my mother!!"

Any other questions or concerns you'd like to share, go right ahead. I suck at thinking of things to ask or discuss, lol.

callitcompulsive

Where are you at in your TTC journey?  Cycle 9, CD11
Any testing coming up? I'll probably start OPK's next week.
Anything good or bad happening? (TTC wise or just in life..) Not too much. Just slogging along.
QOTW: IHO Mother's Day; Is there anything you catch yourself doing that makes you think "OMG I'm turning into my mother!!" I catch myself saying little mom-isms throughout the day. Luckily, my mom is a pretty smart and witty lady, so I'm ok with it. An example I can think of off the top of my head is, she always says that things "need to last her the rest of her life" . I was telling her how I conditioned our new leather couch this past weekend and added "because it needs to last me the rest of my life!" lol.

simsk3887

Finally getting to the computer as you can tell from my massive amounts of catch up posts. I can't do Nest Mobile.  It makes me curse, out loud, at work...which is frowned upon.

@backseatdriver - Congrats! Hope you have a  H&H 9 months!

Where are you at in your TTC journey?  Just getting back on the horse following our loss.  I feel ready but unsure if I want to wait for AF as my dr 'suggested' or just go for it.  I have no idea when I'd O though so it may just become a NTNP month (or however long it takes me to realize that I may be PR or get AF).

Any testing coming up?  Thinking about picking up some OPKs so I have a better idea of what my body is going to do.  I've had text book cycles for as long as I can remember and it makes incredibly anxious to not know when AF is coming.

Anything good or bad happening? (TTC wise or just in life..) Semi-not looking forward to Mother's Day as it was supposed to be my 'first'.  Also, getting a little tired of house hunting and just wish our luck would change to good so we could get a house and move on with life.  *On a side note, I'm sorry this has turned incredibly whiney...it was not my intention.

QOTW: IHO Mother's Day; Is there anything you catch yourself doing that makes you think "OMG I'm turning into my mother!!" I really can't think of anything.  Not that my mom isn't amazing, but I do things a lot different than she does.  She raised me well, but I just have a different way of thinking than she does.

BackseatDriver

@simsk3887 Have you thought about tracking CM?

simsk3887

@BackseatDriver - I tend to do that sort of passively because my body lets me know without question what kind of CM I have for the day.  I'm just concerned that it's not going to be that easy now.  I know it's a bit irrational but I'm a little scared that everything will be completely different now after our m/c.  I guess we'll see how the next few weeks go.

LuckyAngel07

@simsk3887 - you "whine" as much as you need to. It is completely understandable and expected. 

Just some personal perspective (pr/br) - we were told to take off a cycle after our loss as well. Technically, I did take the the cycle off. I was temping so I'd still have a clue when to expect AF, since my cycles were never textbook. But we didn't prevent the few times we did have ST. That's the cycle our sticky happened.

Do whatever you're comfortable with. My entire first trimester was a bit of an emotional rollercoaster. I had a hard time getting truly excited until I further along. Everyone handles the first cycle after loss differently, and there's no wrong way to go about it. 

simsk3887

@LuckyAngel07 - Talk to me about this technicality - did you get AF or are you saying you took it off because you didn't necessarily try?

Also, thank you for being so supportive. I feel like every thread I post you have something sweet to say. Thanks for that - I appreciate it.

BackseatDriver

I don't have any personal experience, but even if this cycle seems wonky I hope it gets back to normal soon. I could tell just by my CM when my cycle went back to normal. It sounds like that might be a pretty good indicator for you too.

I don't know if you've used OPKs before but I have to use them twice per day otherwise I miss the surge.

Good luck!!!

LuckyAngel07

simsk3887 said:

@LuckyAngel07 - Talk to me about this technicality - did you get AF or are you saying you took it off because you didn't necessarily try? Also, thank you for being so supportive. I feel like every thread I post you have something sweet to say. Thanks for that - I appreciate it.

After the m/c bleeding, I never got another AF (which is what I was supposed to wait for before officially starting to try again). We just didn't try. I did make sure we didn't have ST when I had obvious EWCM. Either we ended up getting it on right before signs of O or I didn't have clear enough signs to make sure we avoided. It was really more of a NTNP cycle for us. Considering it had taken a year and a half to get the first BFP, I never thought it would happen again in the month after the loss. 

Your body will do what it's prepared to do. If it needs more time to heal, it needs time to heal. If it's ready to accept another pregnancy, it will. It really comes down to your mental/emotional state and how you'd feel if it happened again right away.

arj14

simsk3887 - good luck with whatever you decide to do *hugs*

I'm Cycle 6 CD 53... and DH & I are currently discussing moving to just NTNP or TTA until I can get a better paying job.  We could be okay if we had a kid now, but it would be very tight.  So we're going to see what happens over the summer while I continue to job hunt for something that will pay me grown-up money.

callitcompulsive

@arj14, GL job hunting! I'm sorry you have to change course for now, but hopefully you find something that pays well and you absolutely love doing soon!

@simsk3887 I'm glad @luckyangel07 popped in here... I immediately thought of what she went through with her m/c and pregnancy afterwards while reading your post... just didn't want to put her on blast or say something out of line. Anywhoo, Good luck with whatever you decide; I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you that you get your sticky baby soon