Thursday night bachelorette?!

bpphoto785

This is a half vent/half do you all think I'm being unreasonable? 

My FSIL wants to have her bachelorette on a Thursday night. This works great for her because she's off Friday/Saturday, and half the bridal party who are teachers and are off during the summer. For me, because I live so far away, it means I would have to take Friday, and probably half of Thursday off. I'm already taking 3 days off for their wedding, add another 1.5 days and that's half of my vacation time. Also, she just wants to go bowling at the casino. So it's not something that could only be done on a Thursday. 

I'm not being an unreasonable bridesmaid b*tch by asking we do this on a Friday, right? 

spalko

I don't think you are being unreasonable to voice an opinion about it but I wouldn't expect them to change plans to fit your schedule. Could you go down that weekend and do something small for FSIL, mani/pedis, lunch, a movie? That way if you can't, or don't want to, make the actual party you can still do something to celebrate her.

kushie77

It does seem a little odd, but you could always bow out gracefully and like Spalko said maybe take some time that weekend and take her for a mani/pedi or do brunch?

court115

I think I would just explain to her that it isn't feasible for you to take that much time off of work and offer an alternative activity for the two of you to do like PP have suggested.

mancila60

I agree with the other ladies. I would just let her know you can't take time off work and let them decide what they want to do. If they decide to go ahead with Thurs night then so be it. If they decide to change plans then it will work out.

My MOH wasn't even at mine so I don't think you would need to do something to make it up to her. It's just something that happens sometimes.