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Putting different time on wedding invitation?
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Hi everyone
May I get some opinions please? This is a wedding question.
Is it rude or in poor taste to put a different time on guests wedding invitations to try and curb any late people? For example, putting that the ceremony starts at 1pm but actually starting it at 2?
I really would appreciate hearing your insights on this. Thanks to each one of you!
Re: Putting different time on wedding invitation?
Or you can say "the ceremony starts promptly at <insert time>" so people know not to be late.
I think 15 minutes is forgivable, but any more and I would be going pretty stir-crazy, since I try to arrive at least 20 minutes before the ceremony anyway! The only way I would consider this okay is if there were some kind of pre-ceremony activities going on for the guests that arrive on time.
Even if you don't do that and put the correct time: have someone make sure no late showers walked in while the ceremony was going on. Luckily my venue had greeters on staff who stopped three late family friends from walking down the aisle right before me (all my bridesmaids and flower girls had gone already). So that's something to consider.
IF the ceremony begins at 2 pm, 2 pm is the time that goes on the invitation.
The guest will begin arriving about 40 minutes beforehand.
If you are late you are late. Too bad.
And factor in that the bride is ALWAYS late. No ceremony I have gone to starts on time; it usually gets underway 10 minutes later or a bit more.
And believe it or not, not everyone attends the ceremony. Lots just go to the reception only.
I was on time. I had been sitting around for a half hour waiting. The wedding started at exactly 5:30. My friends' weddings have been on time also. H's family… another story.
Nope; this is why they have ushers -- and if you have unruly people, I am sure there is somebody the officiant has that can handle latecomers out of line:
This is why you have a coordinator to get late people in and seated in an unobtrusive manner. The bride walks down the aisle at the time listed on the invitation. Normal, polite people know this and show up 15-30 minutes ahead of that time.
And why it is NOT a good idea to put "5 o' clock in the evening" when the ceremony begins at 5:30:
I would be so beyond pissed off if you made me sit and wait an entire fucking hour and a half. I would be gone around about 45 minutes of waiting. And taking my gift home with me.
It's just not a good idea. It could also be that the guests may wonder if the whole thing got called off or what the heck happened to the ceremony....being they are now waiting for more than a short time!
There was this one guy who was VERY late for my wedding ---- the wedding was in progress, the processional music was playing and the bridal party was lined up, and good to go, in the vestibule of the church....
You could see the jerk coming in the front door ---- wow. Guy, there are SIDE ENTRANCES for this reason! you're disrupting the ceremony by coming in so late in the game!
The whole thing got caugnt on the video. Wow, how rude. Side entrance, please.