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4ever Young

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Disneygeek77

Look into a group called  " Mother's Day Out."  Some churches ( including my own ) offer it and I think it is a great thing.  It gives moms and the kids a break from each other.  Even if you only use the service on day a week, it will still do wonders for your sanity.  

Work out a schedule when he gets home and on his days off that is fair to both of you.  For us, my husband is the one that puts the kids to bed while I get some time to relax a bit and he gets some quality time with them.  On his days off we both work together watching the kids.  

Schedule nights/ days out and don't wait for them to happen.  You have to schedule them ahead of time.

I also recommend seeing a counselor.  I have gone to one before and I think it was one of the healthiest decisions I ever made.  

Mostly, don't make threats you don't intend on keeping.  If you do, well then you really can't be surprised he doesn't take you seriously.  

BlueBirdMB

Why exactly aren't you sleeping?  Is it stress or are the kids actually keeping you up.  Girl, you need to sleep.  Life will seem sooooooo much better if you can actually sleep.  

BlueBirdMB

Disneygeek77 said:

Look into a group called  " Mother's Day Out."  Some churches ( including my own ) offer it and I think it is a great thing.  It gives moms and the kids a break from each other.  Even if you only use the service on day a week, it will still do wonders for your sanity.  

Work out a schedule when he gets home and on his days off that is fair to both of you.  For us, my husband is the one that puts the kids to bed while I get some time to relax a bit and he gets some quality time with them.  On his days off we both work together watching the kids.  

Schedule nights/ days out and don't wait for them to happen.  You have to schedule them ahead of time.

I also recommend seeing a counselor.  I have gone to one before and I think it was one of the healthiest decisions I ever made.  

Mostly, don't make threats you don't intend on keeping.  If you do, well then you really can't be surprised he doesn't take you seriously.  

I totally agree.  My mother recently told me that years ago my parents made a promise to each other never to threaten divorce without actually doing it.  They said it saved their marriage.  Don't threaten it unless you are actually going to do it.

TarponMonoxide

4ever Young said:

My husband and I have been married for 4 years. In the past 3, he has taken on a job that requires a lot of hours. We now have 2 children and due to his work hours, we decided I should stay home. Well, this has been a lot harder than I have ever imagined it would. I have never been so sleep deprived in my life which is causing me depression. Because of his work hours, my husband can't help too much. Our marriage is struggling too because we dont spend any time with each other and I have talked to him countless times about how we need to work on this but life goes on the same because he just says "things will get better"...basically no effort. Today, I reached an all time low. In short, i went crazy and threatened to leave him. After a few xanax, I fell asleep for 4 hours. When I woke up, he tells me his mom is coming over to watch the kids while he power washes the swing set! OK, am I just over reacting or do you think this is messed up?! First off, I don't want to see my mother in law right now! Second, our marriage and my sanity need the work, not the freaking swing set! And once again, everything is overlooked.

For your sake and the sake of your sleep and your sanity: get a babysitter to come in a few times a week and get a maid to come in to help clean up a bit.

Sleep depravation can lead to a myriad of health issues.

Let him call his MIL in to help watch the kids!  You will benefit from this --- and I guess you have your supergrouch on because you haven't had any sleep.

Your H can take the laundry to the basement, wash the dishes and do a few quick things while he has the time. Every little bit helps.

TarponMonoxide

So glad I quoted the OP.

Why delete??? This makes no sense at all.