Low Testosterone

doeydo

Anyone or anyone's DH/SO/FI/etc. have low testosterone?  
My FI does; he has had blood work done and is going to see a specialist (an endocrinologist, I think).  We don't have sex much, much to my dismay.

TarponMonoxide

I don't know when your wedding is but make sure that this problem is resolved to your satisfaction before you are married. And if this means postponing until you see results, so be it.

Are you sure it's low t?

or just an excuse not to bother to get busy?

I know of somebody whose boyfriend told her that exactly --- "I have low t" --- meanwhile, they hadn't had sex in literally months. Claimed he'd been to a doctor...but somehow he wasn't getting treatment.

And she bought the excuse hook line and sinker and never questioned him why their sex life hadn't resumed. Meanwhile she'd sit there and cry to us and say that it would be nice if they could have sex again. Ugh.

I'd tell her "Is sex important to you? If it is, you'll do something about this." It fell onto deaf ears.

Meanwhile, he had 2 other women in his life and you can bet they weren't having the same problem as she was. (and last I heard, she was still pursuing...a friendship...with him...)

I would demand to see the bloodwork and I'd make certain sure that he is getting treatment.

And if things don't get hot and heavy with you and him, I'd find another guy who does want to get hot and heavy. If sex is important to you, you'll make sex a priority in your life.

doeydo

Thanks for responding.  I am sure it is low T; I went to a couple doctor appointments with him.  I am waiting until he goes sees the specialist and gets treatment, but it is hard in the mean time and I also worry about  how much so his sex drive (and other things) will change.

TarponMonoxide

It's the "other things" that are an issue that you need to discuss with him.

Put yourself first.

YankeeGirlGoesSouthern

So I'm joining this convo a little late, but my husband was recently diagnosed with low testosterone. He's now applying testosterone patches daily to help. We're still working on our sex life (it took a serious dive after we got married). But, that being said, it's important for your FI to get tested. Testosterone isn't just about sexual health, it can affect your FI in other ways (low energy, increased body fat, etc.)