Porn and such

Veryluckyone

So I have known for some time now that my dh enjoys watching porn. But I just found out he likes playing a game that has sexual stuff in it. I know he is not talking to anyone inappropriately in the game but I can't figure out why it bothers me. Does anyone else's husband do this if so how are you OK with it? I know I sound nieve,

doeydo

What game is it?  Like where people have avatars and walk around and chat with each other with no real goal in the game (ie. Habbo Hotel)?  

TarponMonoxide

Is this something role playing on line where he assumes a sexual persona or something like that?

This has all kinds of grey areas and I'd be leery of any guy who partakes in something like it.

I don't know what it entails: what I said above is only my wild guess. What you need to do: talk to your H. I would let him know you know; you and he need to have a talk about what's happening.

I don't know what is involved. GL.

MarriedLateBloomer

 My husband has always been into porn and I "put up" with it for a while and then said no way never again.  I would find porn on his computer and flip out.  We'd have a huge fight and he'd promise never to do it again only to do it again.  Now, I don't care about porn.  We watch it together and although I don't really see what he gets with it I enjoy having fun with him.  We rate the scenes and sometimes try what they do.  Sometimes he wants to watch it more often than others.  I think when it is not taboo it loses some of its appeal to some degree.  And play those games with him. It could be fun!

bennypb

You should probably find out what goes on in the game before you decide if you're annoyed. What level of 'sexual stuff' is it? If he's chatting to someone and masturbating that's pretty much the same as going on a webcam to do it, so you'd be within your rights to be angry. If it's just like you walk around and there's a bit of cartoon sex in the background it's probably less reason to be miffed than porn I'd say. Hard to say without knowing what goes on! 

It's great that you're not insecure about the pron as so many people are when they know their partner watches it. If you think it's roughly the same level try to adopt the same approach and not let it get to you. And as the above says maybe try playing with him? Might be fun! 

RamaLamaDD

I've posted before about my opinion being if it makes YOU uncomfortable then it's not okay.

My DH had a thing with porn and it got to the point that I told him he cut it out entirely or I left. I'm NOT okay with it.

If you aren't okay with it then tell him that it makes you uncomfortable. If he takes issue with that then point out that you are married and he certainly should care about your feelings.

ErikaB123

Porn is filmed prostitution. Watch this ted talk, it will show you how porn effects men from a males' perspective. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRJ_QfP2mhU