It's gonna happen anyway? Really? So romantic

cloudymeatballs12

Hey, I have been married for not too long.  About 2 years.  Well the other night, my H just simply said, "you better get ready for me later, I want to have sex with my beautiful wife"  right on.  I told him why doesn't he try being a little more foreplay.  Rubbing kissing me etc, try to get me turned on.  I wanted to make out for a bit.  He tells us," lets just go to the bedroom, we already know whats goin to happen"   Really?  Would this not turn you off and make you not want to have sex with him?  Really  I can't get this out of my head.  "We already know what's going to happen" 

DawnLilly

cloudymeatballs12 said:

Hey, I have been married for not too long.  About 2 years.  Well the other night, my H just simply said, "you better get ready for me later, I want to have sex with my beautiful wife"  right on.  I told him why doesn't he try being a little more foreplay.  Rubbing kissing me etc, try to get me turned on.  I wanted to make out for a bit.  He tells us," lets just go to the bedroom, we already know whats goin to happen"   Really?  Would this not turn you off and make you not want to have sex with him?  Really  I can't get this out of my head.  "We already know what's going to happen" 

Explain "He tells us" I don't understand.

Then, lay there and say "I'm ready" and zone out. When he looks confused say "Well, we both know what's going to happen. You are going to get yours without making me aroused and I'm going to end up faking it."

TarponMonoxide

Why don't you set the pace and set the scene?

Draw a nice hot bubble bath for 2 and the both of you get in.  Bring along wine, some music and some munchies.

You can set the pace for the entire scene --- you maneuver him into positions that you want to be in.

doeydo

Generally speaking, women need foreplay.  He sounds like he just wants to skip "all that crap" and get himself off.  He needs a come to Jesus talk about how you need foreplay, explain what you want, and why/what it does for you.

schuette2

I would've walked him to the bathroom then said "if you already know what's going to happen, then you don't need me to help - knock yourself out."

bennypb

You're definitely withing your rights to be annoyed at this. Sounds like you've fallen into a bit of a rut where sex is concerned. And he thinks you'll just give in because it's become almost habit.

Tarponmonoxide is right, you need to start taking more control on the situation. Don't do anything when you're not in the mood unless he takes steps to put you in the mood. And importantly you should tell him why this is p1ssing you off, and let him know you aren;t going to just go through the motions.

nessie994

I agree with what everyone else has said. No matter how long you are together sex should never be taken for granted. If my husband spoke to me like that I'd tell him to go f**k himself literally, because clearly my input isn't that important. Sex is one of the most vital parts of a relationship, and that means sometimes having awkward, intimate converstions. But the only way to get what you want, is to ask for it. So talk to him. Demand that your needs be met too!