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Flamingo86
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My husband and I will celebrate our 5th anniversary in a couple weeks. We are in our late 20s.
As you can see in my siggy, we tried to have a baby but unfortunately had multiple losses. We are now hoping to start the adoption process in a couple years but are taking time to just enjoy being a couple first.
We are currently doing fertility awareness/condoms. I can't take BCP b/c I am susceptible to blood clots and my IUD gave me too many side effects. I am contemplating getting my tubes tied in the future b/c I am nearly certain that if we have children it will be through adoption.
As you can imagine, being married 5 years, having recently bought a house, and nearing 30 gets us a lot of kid questions. I try to take them in stride but it's difficult.
So, that's my story. Hi everyone!
As you can see in my siggy, we tried to have a baby but unfortunately had multiple losses. We are now hoping to start the adoption process in a couple years but are taking time to just enjoy being a couple first.
We are currently doing fertility awareness/condoms. I can't take BCP b/c I am susceptible to blood clots and my IUD gave me too many side effects. I am contemplating getting my tubes tied in the future b/c I am nearly certain that if we have children it will be through adoption.
As you can imagine, being married 5 years, having recently bought a house, and nearing 30 gets us a lot of kid questions. I try to take them in stride but it's difficult.
So, that's my story. Hi everyone!
Married August 2009
3 years. 5 losses.
Our rainbow baby boy born 11.16.15
Re: Lurker intro
My husband and I have been married 4 years and are both 30, i can totally understand you on the questions. We are currently child-free by choice and have no plans to have any at this time. When people ask i always get the oh you'll change your mind response, which just makes me crazy! Cant you just accept my decision for what it is!!!
I feel pretty fortunate that I don't seem to have this kind of question come up for me very often. I don't know if it is because I got married for the first time later in life...at 39. So people just don't bother asking that "old lady", lol.
I'm so sorry for your losses
. I know that must make those kind of questions even more difficult. For me, I am childless by choice. I've actually only twice had someone "push back" on that.
The subject came up at some point with my BFF and her mom when I was in my late 20s and I told them I didn't really want or plan to have children. They assured me when I "found the right man" I would change my mind, lol. Ummm...no. And I did "find the right man".
Oddly enough, the second time it happened was with a nurse at my doctor's office...and not an OB/GYN. Apparently the nurse also works as a mid-wife. I have a condition that would make pregnancy more difficult to manage, but wouldn't be a big deal if that is what I wanted. When I told her in the Q&A portion of my visit that I was not a mother and did not want to have children. I think she was initially trying to assure me that I could have chidren if I wanted to. I told her I was aware of that, but just never had a desire to have chidlren. To be fair, she wasn't rude about it, but did ask me why. Again, not in a snarky way, I think she was just genuinely surprised and curious why I had made that decision. I forget exactly what I said, but her response was, "Well you might change your mind someday."
To which I chuckled mightily to myself. Because, if I am going to "change my mind", I better hurry up and do it. That window is closing fast, LOL.